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April 29, 2011.
We are all made up of stardust. Did you notice most of my hair is smoke?
Thank you so much to Johanna for the testimonial :)
If you've ever deliberated over which feeling is the worst that you can ever experience, I'll tell you now.
Rejection.
That feeling of not being accepted. Knowing that you're not accepted. Feeling countless pairs of eyes on you, hearing careless whispers, catching the end of an exchanged glance between strangers. Isolation. Desolation. Alienation. And you begin wondering what it will take to fit in, just for once.
Because all you have ever wanted to do is to fit in.
Blend in; be part of the crowd.
Some of us are screaming out at the top of our lungs in a crowded room and no one notices. No one cares. At least, no one appears to care.
But have you ever thought that some others are trying to paint themselves invisible with quiet words and cast down glances?
Have your eyes ever flitted over a stranger? Have you ever felt the slightest tinge of empathy for the shadows in the corners with their eyes unfocused and faces expressionless? Or have you, all the while, just been thinking about yourself?
we have difficulties with relationships because we are unlovable and sensitive to rejection.
personality disorders are typically associated with severe disturbances in the behavioral tendencies of an individual, usually involving several areas of the personality, and are nearly always associated with considerable personal and social disruption. Additionally, personality disorders are inflexible and pervasive across many situations, due in large part to the fact that such behavior is ego-syntonic (i.e. the patterns are consistent with the ego integrity of the individual) and are, therefore, perceived to be appropriate by that individual.
Diagnosis of personality disorders can be very subjective; however, inflexible and pervasive behavioral patterns often cause serious personal and social difficulties, as well as a general functional impairment. Rigid and ongoing patterns of feeling, thinking and behavior are said to be caused by underlying belief systems and these systems are referred to as fixed fantasies or "dysfunctional schemata"
Don't reject me...
Like the wiper does with the rain...
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باران پاييزي
مازندران - ايران
مهرماه 1387
( all scripture quotes from NKJV) ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- It's human nature to be anxious when any new and unfamiliar situation arises in our lives. It is the fear of the unknown that makes us nervous. Fear can paralyze our actions ; Fear of failure, rejection, ridicule, and so on... We like to feel safe, And familiar just feels safe for us. I bet that every person reading this has that one " comfort food" that always makes you feel better when stress, anxiety or depression takes ahold. The Bible says " For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind." ( 2 Timothy 1:7)------ we can't see what God sees, But we can have faith in Him and trust that He always has our best in mind. Oftentimes when a bad situation arises, we will ask " what do I do?" when we should be asking " Lord, what do you want me to do?" Way to often people will use prayer as last resort ; when prayer should be the first step.// Think about Jehoshaphat. His first reaction to learning that a great multitude was coming against him was to pray. He set himself to seek the Lord. In the midst of a trail he prayed this prayer : " O our God, will you not judge them? For we have no power against this multitude that is coming against us ; nor do we know what to do. but our eyes are upon you." ( 2 Chronicles 20:12)------------ Jehoshaphat knew that God had delivered others before him, and he trusted that God would do the same for him.. He did, He will! [ Hebrews 13:5] " Let your conduct be without covetousness ; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you. so we may boldly say : The Lord is my helper ; I will not fear. What can man do to me?"--------- Only God can give us the confidence and security we need in times of trouble. If we keep our eyes focused on Him, He will lead us in the best way possible... [ Proverbs 3:5-6] " Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding ; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths." //////
“The words won’t freaking come and I am screaming out on the inside. I want to leak out this frustration and anger. I want to pour out this hurt and sadness. I want to break this dam of rejection and perfection. I want to let it go so I can be free again. My bones have been infected with stubbornness. I feel rejection stab my heart yet I purposely think of those same memories, over and over, in hopes that I can remember how to feel. I just can’t. As I cry, my body heaves and lurches but it does not bend. I can’t bend with these bones of steel fused so tightly inside of me. I cannot breathe with all this gasoline being poured into my blood stream. I want to exhale so badly but if I do the strength I put into holding myself together with every lip bite, every tensed fist, and every tightened throat will be for nothing. I just can’t. The tears will just pour and they will be like fire, reacting with the gasoline in my veins. An explosion will erupt in my heart and I won’t be able to live any longer. I just won’t be able to make it through…I just can’t.”
“But I collect each of your tears in a bottle; none of them will hurt you. When you are on your knees, sobbing out in desperation, I will lift your head and reveal my plans for you; plans to prosper you, not to harm you. I will remove your frustration and anger. I will heal you of your hurt and sadness. I will break off the stronghold of rejection that consumes your life and I will crush the bond of wanting perfection that suffocates you. I will give you freedom. I already have. There will be a renewal of the living water in your spirit and like a medicine it will cure you from your deep, emotional infections. There will be a pill of forgiveness given to you for your cold and your symptoms of sin. And through all of the consequences, the trials, and the chastening I will be there. I will relax your body, your mind and your soul and give it peace. I will breathe life into you once again and for the three times you said you can’t, I say ‘You will’ for you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.”
“But…I just…don’t think I can.”
“But I can. In My name your transgressions are forgiven and in My name your healing is beginning. I have waited days and days for this moment. I have craved to be yours as you are Mine. I have desired your heart with every scar and every wound so that I may show you my glory through this time of revival and renewal. I don’t write these love letters for the sake of writing them. I know the amount, the sufficiency, and the virtue of My love. It is now your turn to witness this great love and to know I have made you fearfully and wonderful in the image of Me. Stop believing the lie that you cannot do it because every inch you move in this race, even if you’re crawling, is one step closer to the finish line. I am waiting there with a prize of excellence for my good and faithful servant. For my beloved.”
This began as a piece of writing about depression but after many rough copies I had to just become raw and write exactly how I was feeling. God had different plans; He wanted to show me His great love by speaking through me…to myself ha. I encourage you, no matter how low you are or even how high, if you can relate hear me out: God is able. God is willing. God is faithful. And God is good.
So let us worship him for who He is, not for what He can give us.
Giotto di Bondone (born 1267 or 1276 - died 1337)
No-1 Rejection of Joachim's Sacrifice
detail head of the High priest
No. 1 Scenes from the Life of Joachim:
1. Rejection of Joachim's Sacrifice [1304-06]
Fresco, 200 x 185 cm
Cappella Scrovegni (Arena Chapel), Padua
Apparently when a female Orange Tip has already mated and she wants to deter the advances of other males she will flatten her wings and raise her abdomen. It's believed that at this point she releases an anti-aphrodisiac to put them off.
loneliness hurts. rejection hurts. losing someone hurts. envy hurts. everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.
passion is
so I breath deep...
for passion leads...
a color red...
love....
destruction...
and change...
leading forward...
colors follow...
blue...
for doubt....
white....
for intention...
green...
for life...
black...
for mystery...
mixing....
twirling...
spinning...
so I breath deep...
for passion leads...
to misty frontiers...
past doubt...
past rejection...
past melancholy...
past the wall...
and I follow...
past knowledge...
past dreams....
past flesh...
and past a smile....
so I breath deep...
for passion leads....
beyond light...
darkness greets...
in pure mystery...
I find peace....
-rc
It is true! Life is all those things and more.
If you have many unsaid, unexpressed feelings taking up space in your life, say them out loud. Rejection is not as bad as regret, express your feelings. If you have not told your loved ones, your family, your friends that you love them, then go ahead do it right now. Hug them a lot, kiss them a lot and tell them you love them a lot. Life is short.
If you are hanging on to bitterness because somebody hurt you. Let it go, cause the only person getting affected by that is you. Let go of negative feelings, forgive and forget. Its not easy but channelize your negative feelings into something creative...art, music, sports, anything that can provide an outlet for them. Life is too beautiful.
If you are hurting somebody, cheating, taking them for granted. Maybe you should stop and think and change while you have a chance. Respect others especially those you love. Honesty, integrity, transparency, loyalty, respect, these are not just words, they actually mean something. Life is precious.
If you are stuck in a rut and don't know how to get out of it, then seek help. If you have dreams you want to pursue, find the courage to pursue them. Again, failure is not as bad as regret of never having tried.You may not always be able to choose the situations you are put in, but you can always choose how to respond to them. Take control, because it is your life. Life is unexpected.
Be the best you can, let the darkness within be transformed into something positive, a legacy of art, let the light within shine bright and dazzle to make this life worthwhile! Life is exciting.
Thank you for patiently listening to my words. Thank you for appreciating my art. Thank you for understanding what I mean. Thank you for being you. Love you all.
xoxo KK
Spider-Man is one of the most popular and commercially successful superheroes ever created. The Spider-Man comic book series broke new ground by allowing Peter Parker, an average teenage high school student, and the person behind Spider-Man's secret identity, to have feelings of self doubt, rejection, inadequacy, and loneliness. This helped many young readers relate to him, allowing his popularity to skyrocket .
This Spider-Man figure was seen at New York Comic Con.
不是每一張椅子，
都在期待下一個人。
有些空位，
只是剛好是空的。
Not every chair
is expecting someone next.
Some seats
are simply empty.
有時候，
人們離開後，
位置仍然留下來。
但那不代表它在呼喚誰。
Sometimes,
after people leave,
the place remains.
That doesn’t mean it is calling anyone.
我們習慣把空缺理解成邀請，
把沉默誤認為渴望，
把距離解讀成等待。
We are used to reading absence as invitation,
silence as longing,
distance as waiting.
但也有一些關係，
完成於離開的瞬間。
就像一張被使用過的椅子，
它的功能已經結束。
Some relationships
are completed at the moment of leaving.
Like a chair that has been used,
its purpose is already fulfilled.
空位不是拒絕，
也不是遺憾。
它只是沒有再延續的必要。
An empty seat is not rejection,
nor regret.
It simply does not need to continue.
理解這件事之後，
人就不必急著坐下，
也不必為每一個空著的位置，
安排一個故事。
Once this is understood,
there is no need to rush to sit,
no need to assign a story
to every empty place.
有些位置，
不是為了被填滿而存在。
它們只是證明——
人來過，也走過。
Some places
are not meant to be filled again.
They simply prove
that someone was here, and has moved on.
In a beautiful evening setting, this female Cabbage White is busy feeding. Sensing the presence of male butterflies in the vicinity, it spreads her wings and sticks its abdomen up to put off any unwanted advances. According to "Butterfly - a photographic Portrait" by Thomas Marent pg 190, "although it looks much like a come-on, this posture makes it impossible for the male to reach her abdomen to mate".
Don't waste yourself in rejection, nor bad, but chant the beauty of the good.
Emerson
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We fail
our plans fall through
our hard work results in
rejection
we look at others
who succeed
and we give up
We lose faith
in ourselves
we blame
ourselves
we lose hope,
we fall .............
those who get up
are glad they stumbled
for there is strength
in stumbling
we learn and move forward
we face adversity and
win!
East Village
Photography’s new conscience
Shadow is confused....and so am I...
This is truly a strange story within a story novel....and both stories involve rejections of the progress of love...
The 100 Strangers Project being a learning exercise at its heart, I ventured out into the Helsinki night armed with two reflectors and a flash.
After a few inevitable rejections, and having dodged up a couple of side streets to avoid a few inevitable drunks, I set up with a large construction hoarding as a simple backdrop. A couple of seconds later, Pauliina, Kira and Sonja wandered up, as if fated.
Pauliina was talking at the time, energetically, and with a bright, somewhat wry smile. Nonetheless it was only with Kira's encouragement that she passed her drink to Sonja and agreed to shoot. Kira seemed pretty certain that Pauliina should take part, and once "on set" she demonstrated the same forthright presence she had had walking down the street moments before.
Surviving an officious interuption from a security guard, we shot for a few minutes before the girls headed on to their night out. They met at school in central Finland. Some years later Kira has moved to Helsinki; Pauliina and Sonja visiting to catch up and enjoy an evening's revels together.
So Pauliina, Kira and Sonja - kiitos! Thanks so much for stopping and taking part! IT was great fun chatting and shooting together, and I hope you like your portrait Pauliina.
Night portraits offer a great opportunity to travel with family and still shoot for the project. They also present a wonderful challenge, and opportunity again, in terms of lighting. Normally I'd use a large softbox on a stand for night portaits, as in shots like Martyna's portrait or even a smaller softbox held like Hanna's portrait - but travelling with as many reflectors as I like and a single carry on bag, neither solution is desperately convenient. Instead I've recently had some success with extra strangers bouncing flash from a reflector as a fill, so I thought on this trip I would try it as a key light instead.
Kira is stood ~2m from Pauliina to camera left, bouncing a Canon 600EX-RT on ETTL from a large soft gold trigrip reflector. Meanwhile Pauliina holds a soft gold reflector just below shot. It's not perfect by any means as a setup, yet I wanted to share it as a milestone along the journey. As a next experiment I'm going to try borrowing bedsheets from my hotel to flash through, like a giant softbox - portable and hopefully easier for a group of strangers to manage together. More anon!
This is portrait #80 of my 100 Strangers Project - check out the group page and get involved.
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