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Since I'm bored.. imma talk about dark topics. Just in case... I'd be a wandering ghost if i dont write it. Lol.
Just remembered that back then my dad's bro in law had sidechick or mistress. That made his wife unhappy and bullied my mom until she had 3 times miscarriage and stressed. When unhappy woman met happy woman.. she would spread the venom. I remembered there were times when my mom slapped my face with no clear reason, that when i was 5 yo. Then i fleed to grandma neighbor's house, cryin. After that, she said not to tell my dad about this. I was like.. the heck mom. My brain always on survival mode since that day. I'm trapped in love hate relationship with my mom, not only because of that moment but also many moments, i dunno what got into her back then (maybe that pressure inside my dad fam), she acted like control freak. She loves impressing other people (other see woah she's nice, kind blabla) but treats her kid like well.. doesn't exist. The irony. It kept continuing until 2018 she became more understanding tho still 2 faced. If people said eldest daughter always looks grumpy and irritated and sharp tongued.. well.. we've been enduring a lot cuz our parents expect us to be bulletproof and immortal.
There was a guy who said that im coldhearted, well i wont deny it.. i've been in survival mode and u expect me.. acting pretty and flirty. That's never gonna happen. A typical of.. happy go lucky who clueless about world.
Tsk tsk.. later my dad sis passed away and his husband brought that mistress to his household. His children one by one left the house, just his youngest daughter stayed (sis X). And when my dad's bro in law passed away, all retirement/pension money and assets belong to that mistress.. his daughter got nothing at all.
But she was still after and beg the money from all his children (my dad's bro in law's kids), including my mom. From 2002 until 2015 she was still after the money tho she already got everything. She abandoned her kids from her marriage with my dad's bro in law, and like what a mistress would do, she spread her legs to other men. Once belong to the street.. gonna be back to the street. She's not pretty tho (im a lehoe, if you're pretty i tell ya you're pretty. If not well.. silence is the answer).
Brcause of their father attitude, sis X almost die (commit suicide), she drugged herself until overdose (2 times), but my mom managed to bring her to the hospital. Then she fleed overseas (1998 probly) to cope with stress (her mom died and her dad brought his mistress home with their newborn at that time. Her sis and bro married and left the house. Her home doesn't feel like home anymore), dated many foreigner mostly chinese men.. taiwanese, hongkong man, and singaporean. She's pretty, could speak many languages and what's important she is caring, she's like Pretty Zinta but with tan skin (back then, people not too obsessed with pale skin or whitewashing like now. Something with color always looks healthy, i love it).
I still remembered that singaporean guy named Andre, he gave 5 yo me dollar via postmail lol (i asked shamelessly thru phone: andre, gimme dollar (tho i never saw his face until now) lol). But they broke up. Later i heard the main reason cuz sis X couldn't bear a kid. So she felt insecure and stepped back, tho this andre guy already said thats finee.
You're in asian household, tho andre guy said thats fine, we can adopt.. but his fam would think she's useless. Biggest bullshit ever if ur mother still too controlling every aspects of his life and not set his son free (i cancelled one of my suitors because of that reason too. Mom too controlling every aspects of his life tho he's already 38 and he is too attached to his mom and can't make his own decision).
He: If u love my mom then i love u..
My mind: Dude.. how can I not love ur mom? Logically, she will be my parents too. Your love is conditional. Seems like u can marry just anybody.. Also.. seems like you cant be mediator if someday your mom and me have arguments.. *judging* that's why ur ex left u.. now i know the reason why. Man is a leader despite of how dominant his woman.. If u start new life (your own fam) and your mother still too controlling, you kill ur woman slowly or matter of time your ship will sink.
Me: Your big brother have more logic than you.. (his brother let his wife control their own household, thats good action to make his wife stays happy and sane).
Bro really couldn't communicate well.. like, yo mom if i have to marry her i hope u two can get along well. But he said.. if u love my mom then I'll love u. Matter of time until he starts comparing his wife/partner with his mom. If he keeps saying that words to other woman.. good luck, noone wanna be his partner tho he's an architect.
So i stepped back. That's sign of npd. Actually there were 2 guys that extremely irritated me in my whole damn life, this guy and other one from my colege era (that happy go lucky).
Indonesian women always wary of these type of men:
Overly admiring or adore his mom. That's okay and fine.. but if his mother is too controlling all the aspects of his life choices and decisions (not set him free making his own decisions and supporting from behind). He better stays single forever.
Back then, some his sons became meth junkies, now fully recovered after my mom dunk their head inside tub to store water (at that time i was still 5 yo and they babysit me). My mom was furious like.. i let u babysit my toddler but you consuming meth? Ohoho prepare to die (Mom: looks innocent, but could kill. Merciless, no nag no lyfe; My Dad: looks intimidating, but wont kill. He cried when see circumcision process (charity event from his workplace) lol). She dragged him to public restroom in our neighborhood and dunked his head many times inside tub to store water.. many people watched it but my mom dgaf. When gentle approachement aint workin anymore, we use violence. When you think we will embrace them.. that's impossible. You'll be locked inside dark bathroom or dark storage room after receiving many punches.
Especially bully. For example.. if there's one bully in one group.. I dislike the rest of them like.. why u keep him/her inside ur group. Apologizing is easy but erasing the trauma is hard.
I told all to A and she was like.. every fam always have that problematic person who keeps buggin other people family with their problems.
She had ever felt that too.. her father scammed by her aunt. His dad built or acted as investor in her aunt bakery business. He bought microwave, oven, pick up (car) for transportation and operational and all, but that aunty and her husband sold all those assets one by one. During her colege time, her aunt kept calling like literally spamming her during class.. asking for some money.
She said she had ever pushed her motorcycle to nearby gas station (which is 700m) cuz her uncle borrowed her motorcycle and didn't refill the gas.
I told her.. my dad also scammed by her sis.. he lost his house he built when he was young adult. So.. his sis husband just got fired and had no place to go, and my dad offered his unused house as a temporary house for them. My dad be like: i have assigned house from country.. u can stay at my unused house.
Later.. she secretly sold that house. My mom was so furious, she was like... nah... im done. U disappointed me.. u and ur fam.
My dad insulted his sis: i gave u shelter and u sold it?! That's what u got. Marrying a man that's only for his look. In fact he's a lazy man! I dont pity you. I pity ur kids for having useless parents! Shame on u and ur husband..! *He's Sag, the chillest fire sign, but if he already had enough he would stating harsh truth that's 100% fact. Not unlike me.. im lehoe im totally would give her attitude like chill but intimidating or give her intimidating smile in her face with combo sarcasm like oh look at this pretty lady at my front door.. lets hear what she wants.. lung.. kidney or my soul? I dont even know i still have soul or not*
Another one is from my mom's side. Her sis's husband.. back then my dad already helped him find job in the city but he denied it and said, what about my wife and kid. That's when i was 3yo like what this man doin here from faraway village.
My dad said: Your wife and kid needs money to survive. You must bear the long distance relationship for ur fam.
He didn't want it. He went back to the village. I wonder how many times his wife fleed from their house brought my little cousin at that time.
My cousin said: it gave me mental breakdown..
My mind: Oh well.. my mental been dying cuz my parents are busy solving ur parents problem couldnt raise me well.. especially ur dad. My mental is not mental breakdown again but mental breakdancing..
My dad invested in his poultry farm and rabbit too but it was all failed cuz he was busy impressing villagers. My dad and his savage mind like.. this man really loves to see his family suffer. He kept helping them when my mom sis sick, his sick kids and all. My dad pitied his childrens not him. My grandma and my mom other sister already warned him not to have many kids but he kept making more and more, despite of his economic situation. My dad said, man who overly religious always have that kind of pov.
And I've been observing it since kid. I had enough of it. After my grandma passed away.. When it was ramadan or school holiday... I actually didnt wanna go to village to spend the holiday, but my parents forced me. The reason is.. when my mom had 3 miscarriage they never came to see her or asked her conditions that what made me.. sick and angry. They brought their probs at my parents front door, but when they're above the clouds, they forgot it all.
I still keeping it.. bottle up inside. My parents told it all to me and i'll continue this habit, so my future kid won't be a clueless and ungrateful little piece of shit.
If he actually didnt tell it to his kids about this history woah... how ungrateful life he's been living.
Actually there are still so many skeletons... my uncle who killed his business opponent so he could monopolize the poultry farm business in X city. Then his opponent conterattacked him that leads to...the death of my cousin and his toddler granchild. My cousin dead body found in the bottom of the river.. his toddler grandchild died with his brain scattered on the asphalt.
Actually my uncle and his wife who started that war first. He dunno that other people can do the same evil thing as him. I dont like my uncle, he loved to do depraved thing tho this man, smiley and all.
Men lifes: become a scammer, or scammed by an asshole.
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