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This common merganser appeared to be explaining something to the disinterested hen. Made me think of mansplaining, which I'd explain the definition, but then I'd be mansplaining :)
When I see these daisies still thriving in morning sunlight, I cannot resist. This time about six focus shifts manually with the Laowa 60mm f/2.8, 2x magnified.
Helicon Focus 8.1.1 (Windows), Method=B (R=8,S=4)
About 2 inches across, approximately, or 5cm
Thanks for your comments, but please, no mansplaining.
"Make your art for you, first. You need it to express yourself, to explore who you are and the story you are living, to sort through the raw materials and become the person that art-making alone can create. You’ve not only been given permission to do that, but a mandate."
~David duChemin, Ch. 11, The Problem With Muses; Notes on Everyday Creativity, 2020
For those who may not know somehow, mansplaining is definitely not a new term but I'd define it as when a man decides that, because he's a man, he has certain knowledge or skills that a woman (because she's a woman) doesn't have and therefore the woman should definitely listen to him and consider that she could be wrong. I was thinking maybe this is something that actually happens sometimes after a bad date too when a man tries to convince a woman her perception of him wasn't correct and to give him another chance.
We should all actually listen to and respect each other and also gender is a construct. Have a nice day!
**All photos are copyrighted**
Cadzand-Bad, Zeeuws-Vlaanderen, Zeeland, The Netherlands
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Coastal reinforcements and marina construction at Cadzand-Bad, located in the very southwest of the Netherlands, at the border with Belgium.
Men call it "mansplaining stuff" but when we do it its called nagging. Cont'd from my man cave post below.
'North America’s littlest falcon, the American Kestrel packs a predator’s fierce intensity into its small body.'
~allaboutbirds.org
Please! No mansplaining about how I might have shot this better. If you have ideas, Flickr-mail me.
#BuildTheResistance
Female Northern Flicker takeoff. Should have increased shutter speed as well as narrowed aperture.
Z9 caught the eye, at least.
No mansplaining, please ;-)
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Street photography from Glasgow, Scotland.
Previously unpublished shot captured in March 2019.
The 8th of March is International Women's Day which gives focus to issues such as gender equality, reproductive rights and violence and abuse towards women.
While progress has been made, with France making abortion a constitutional right just a few days ago, there is still a long way to go for equality and an end to abuse and violence.
Misogyny in our patriarchal societies remains rampant even today in 2024. This has to end and everyone can help by challenging misogyny when they see it.
Today I celebrate International Women's Day with all women and girls around the world. The 2024 message for IWD is 'Inspire Inclusion'.
I encounter misogyny here on Flickr fairly frequently too. Most often in the form of 'mansplaining' but from time to time in the form of abuse too. Most recently being told, "Dear Lord, please let this woman keep her big mouth shut until she knows whet [sic] she is talking about..." simply for pointing out that using copyrighted photographs without permission was theft. I reported that abuse to Flickr, naturally, but there is a lack of transparency in reporting abuse on Flickr and you never hear back if action has been taken or not.
Take care everyone.
I'm sure his partner isn't quite as enthralled with the details surrounding ancient rusty cylinder heads as he is. Seen in Shrule's annual auto jumble in Co. Mayo, Ireland.
Legion of Honor Museum – San Francisco, CA
Corneille van Clève – Bacchus and Ariadne (detail)
In Explore – 23 May 2021
Yesterday morning I drove out to Rannoch Moor against the advice of the weather forecast and I was treated to a few minutes of glorious, if intense, red light on the mountains.
This is a conflicting image for me. Yes, I've played with the contrast of the original RAW file and yes, the colours are somewhat overwhelming, but to me, this is what I witnessed. When I posted this to Twitter last night, I felt apprehensive as there are a few cliques of mostly male photographers who have no problem criticising without invitation.
You could say that when one posts to a social media platform, that opens up the playing field, and I appreciate that, but criticism is a delicate art, especially when it comes to creative endeavours. In a way, it's the artistic equivalent of mansplaining, as if they have a uncontrollable urge to pat me on head and say 'oh dear, you'll do better next time if you follow these rules'.
Saturation has become a dirty word (and rather aptly, both my vibrance and saturation sliders are at -3). More and more there is a pressure to conform to a very narrow definition of what photography is and can be. There is a little point in arguing with such individuals, there objective is less to help me grow as a creative, and more to make themselves feel superior.
As I said, criticism is a fine art that requires thought, trust and respect. Spitting out 140 characters of unconsidered criticisms is much more self-satisfying than taking the time to take me for a drink, or even send an e-mail, talking to me like a human, building up that relationship, for the benefit of both.
I'm no child, I'm a 34 year old woman who runs my own photography business, works as an academic, has travelled the world alone. When I was 17, I was told I'd never succeed as an artist because I was too literal, by a mostly male establishment. It stopped me pursuing the only career path I wanted when I was young. Nearly 20 years on, and the same bullshit elitism is still evident, in the photographic industry. This time, I won't be deterred by insecure egos. This is my vision, this is my art, it is no better or worse than anyone else's, it does not conform to someone else's idea of what photography is or can be. This is my vision of yesterday. Bright, colourful, intense, optimistic, much like me.
You want to discuss art with me? Let's discuss, respectfully, with love and honesty in a safe environment. I've grown so much from those kind of discussions. But I won't wither, or conform. It's never been my style.
I have to tell you a story about mansplaining....not because I think this story is unique (it's not) or because I think that the men who visit my stream will actually read this (many won't ) but because it's actually one of those sad and funny things most men won't find unusual or even atypical but women will realize oh yeah, that IS mansplaining.
I was at The Color Run last year and a white middle aged man approached me asking me if I was a "professional photographer." I always laugh at this question. Like, yeah, totally, i am....I have spent $25,000+ on professional equipment to earn next to nothing and still work my day job so that you can ask me just that question. Oh well, baggage aside, i explained to him that I had been curious about The Color Run for quite some time because of the vivid nature of the experience but I was photographing from afar with my 200 mm plus extender to not damage my camera equipment.
To which the man, having obviously not listened to the nuances (AKA words) of what I was saying, thought to tell me, "You know, there are other races and marathons in Chicago in case you'd like to photograph them!"
So helpful. Thanks, white middle aged man for saving the day! I had no idea that there were other races. So, of course, this past weekend, I went down to the Chicago marathon with buckets of colored powder just to make sure I could photograph what I wanted again. Just kidding, I did no such thing...but I did think about this man, who was so wise and knowledgeable about common sense that he had to share it with me. I so appreciate it. Women-do we even need to wonder why our political situation is a stinking heap of shit when we're so grateful for the mansplainers like this who don't just rape or kill us? When we're happy to be able to just laugh at the absurdity that they feel so entitled to be so in need of sharing their basically common sense that anyone who has lived in the city with the ability to google would know anyway. Let's be careful not to harm their fragile egos , though, because there goes our birth control and choices.
I realize this might offend some of you. I don't really care, though, at this point because-want to know what truly offends me? It's the fact that these men are the ones in power controlling our bodies now. It's not just having to listen to them mansplain...now, these self righteous idiots get to tell us what we need and need not do with our very personal selves. Think about that for a minute.
***All photos and bodies are copyrighted. Your photo, your choice. Your body your choice.**
A highKey image of some new age musicians discussing things in depth within Rossio Square, Lisbon.
The softened background is an abstract layer with white vignette...which seems to create an artificial bokeh that surrounds the main subjects...
Note Game Of Thrones village idiot Yoris Bohnson
gleefully invading a little old lady's space.
He lied to her too.
If there's one spot in all of Death Valley that is boring (apart from the view), it's this one. This is the site of the Eagle Borax Works, founded by Isador Daunet in 1882. During the first 15 months of operation the Works produced 130 tons of low-grade borax. The operation was pretty inefficient and went bankrupt. As a result, Daunet committed suicide in 1884 and Eagle Borax Works was closed.
We are standing on what remans of the old operation site, which is just a pile of dirt.
Photo by @Chris Toumanian
Eagle Borax Works
Westside Road
Death Valley National Park
'Roid Week AW 2016 - Day 1 #2
This new bridge for Crossrail at Canary Wharf, Docklands, London was a must for a Polaroid, and finally went down to photograph it.
However when I got there, I met a photographer and his subject, and I found it more interesting to take pictures of them, instead of the isolated bridge. Then the whole conversation of Polaroid came up and I then probably Mansplained the heck out of the history of Polaroid and Impossible Project.
I love how Polaroid is such an Icebreaker!
Shot on Impossible Project I-1
Models: Sulay and Eloise
Mansplaining the Wilson-Lincoln (Memorial) Effect, as modelled by James (here doing the central Manspeading) with Marcel and Rrose supporting.
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I'm sure we’ve all heard of the red mist? It is the feeling of extreme anger that temporarily clouds one's judgment and can arise given a variety of conditions and depending on the individual.
Sometimes it’ll occur when some over-entitled male tries to mansplain something like the dark side of the Moon and how it is tidally locked to Earth when the woman is a world renowned astrophysicist with numerous awards and accolades under her belt on many far ranging subjects infinitely more complex than the simple geophysics this mouthbreather is attempting to explain.
Or perhaps simply encountering a mime. That would also do it.
Cheers
id-iom
My second effort at a narrated video. The first try is reposted at the end of this description. Main advancements are including the owl in the video, and improving the technical sound quality of my voice. Below it is very hollow, in this one it is a bit more fulsome. My younger brother Alan, who edits videos for a living, suggested I go in a closet and speak into the hanging clothes when I made the recording - thereby bringing a richer tone to the proceedings. That did work, to an extent.
Not sure where the earnest mansplaining tone to the narration comes from. I need to chill! Unless I actually talk like that all the time. OMG.
Anyway, the owl was quite a hit on Grand Manan this summer. I think it is still there now (September 6), on territory for at least a month. Initially there was concern about photographers bothering the bird, but in the end the owl didn't seem to mind the attention.
The panning shots of the habitat were made with a hand held Canon EOS M6 / EF-M 15-45mm combo. The owl video (cropped significantly) was obtained with a tripod mounted Canon EOS-1D X Mark II and EF500mm f/4L IS II USM. It was pieced together on iMovie. You can't upload hi-res movies to flickr, and I'm not too worried about the video quality just yet. We will see where these baby steps lead, if anywhere.
Josefa de Óbidos* (1630-1684) - St. Teresa before the Holy Trinity (1672). In the collection of the Cascais parish. Shown at a temporary exhibition at Casa das Histórias - Museu Paula Rego, Cascais, spring 2021.
*Josefa de Óbidos was born Josefa Ayala Figueira in Seville. Her father was a Portuguese painter from Óbidos named Balthasar Gomes Ferreira who had gone to Seville for training in the 1620's and there he met Josefa's mother. The family returned to Óbidos when she was 4.
In his National Conservatism Conference keynote address, Missouri Republican Senator Josh Hawley recently stated, “Many men in this country are in crisis, and their ranks are swelling.” Hawley blames the left. As politicians often do, he speaks in broad strokes and oversimplifications. “The left’s attack on America leads directly to an attack on manhood.” Political misdirection is nothing new for Hawley or the Republicans.
On January 6, 2021, Hawley raised his fist to support Capitol insurrectionists. With presidential aspirations, the masculinity he supports threatened the Vice President and Congress with a noose, baseball bats, and firearms. They also assaulted police and left many dead. A year later, Congressional staff, from legislative aides to blue-collar workers, are still unnerved by the attack. And many are leaving jobs they once loved.
Men’s problems are diverse and replay over generations. Understanding is complex. Solutions run the gamut from Robert Bly’s attempts to reconnect old myths with boys’ development to blaming feminism. Just as women’s rights are under attack, the courts have been slow to recognize the value of fathers’ parental rights. Both men’s and women’s roles are under intense scrutiny, from the #MeToo movement to bitter backlashes against gender equality. Hawley’s words and actions do nothing to bring about change. Instead, he uses male disenfranchisement to enrage conservatives but offers no concrete solutions. He has no interest in bettering men’s lives. He simply wants to politicize them for his personal aspirations.
My father grew up in a violent family. My grandfather physically and sexually abused my grandmother. In the 1930s, she divorced him, and the court awarded her child support, but my grandfather refused to pay. It’s hard enough today for single mothers to raise a family. Back then, it was impossible. To survive, she had to remarry him. My father was not immune to this aggression. My grandparents sent him to military school to “straighten him out.” Only after her children were adults did my grandmother divorce her husband for the last time.
Dad didn’t follow in his father’s footsteps. But he never talked about his childhood, and it scarred him. He could lash out indiscriminately, often without rhyme or reason. I didn’t know where the line was, so I was always on edge. Once, after our obligatory father/son attendance at my elementary school’s sex education night, as we drove home and with no prologue, my father said to me, “If you ever touch your sister, I will kill you.” My father had just handed me my early inheritance. At eleven, I was too young to rationalize or question it. And we never talked about it again. It would take decades before I knew what to do with it. While my sister rebelled in her teens, my rebellion didn’t come until my 20s. I did what I was told because I feared my father’s wrath. It’s easy to see how I might have grown up and mirrored his behavior, but that’s not what happened.
As I grew older, I probed my father’s modus vivendi, discovering his secrets and his shame. I wanted to connect with him, but if I got too close, he’d retreat. I remember telling him, “Someday, you’re going to die, and we will never have talked.” We never did. But I learned how to deal with him and disarm his anger. And finally, I learned how to tell him how I would live my life. By that point, it didn’t matter if he understood. I no longer needed his approval. It only mattered that I was resolute and expressed myself without malice. I would not pass down this pattern to my family.
So, as a man with my own history, I have a stake in Senator Hawley’s definition of masculinity. I’m also trying to understand the conflicting ways we talk about gender. With men’s roles in constant flux, it is no simple task to make sense of them. Physically stronger and full of testosterone, nature conditioned us to fight predators, the elements, and other men. For many, that remains our prime duty. Will Smith felt the need to protect and defend his wife at the 2022 Academy Awards, slapping Chris Rock on stage after he made a lame joke about Smith’s wife, Jada Pinkett Smith. His duty? His testosterone? His stress? Or, as Denzel Washington warned, “At your highest moment, be careful. That’s when the devil comes for you”? Ms. Smith, more wisely, didn’t feel compelled to comment nor defend herself.
A recent study published by the British Journal of Psychology shows that men with high testosterone levels are more likely to engage in unethical behavior when competing with other men. Study authors Marcelo Vinhal Nepomuceno and Eric Stenstrom believe that “high testosterone men become angry and behave unethically to gain status and increase the likelihood of attracting women.” But we are also a sensitive lot for all our bravado, wasting our energy by hiding it from our families and friends.
Now in my 70s, I’ve seen significant improvements in gender equality over my lifetime. But it hasn’t been enough or universally accepted. Legalized abortion seems as close to extinction now as it’s ever been. Still, no one is holding men accountable for unwanted pregnancies. A close look at women’s lives requires the same for men. The spectrum of male behavior is nuanced—burrowed deep within our society’s zeitgeist. Politicians don’t like nuance. It muddies their message. Hawley uses a sledgehammer to solidify entrenched traditions, and men are caught in this tug-of-war.
China recently banned effeminate men from television. “Broadcasters must ‘resolutely put an end to sissy men and other abnormal esthetics,’ the [Chinese] TV regulator said, using an insulting slang term for effeminate men—niang pao, or literally, girlie guns.” Brazil’s President Jair Bolsonaro mocked his aides who wore masks by calling their protective gear “coisa de viado,” roughly translated “for fairies.” He thinks men’s masculinity can protect them from COVID.
Not only is this systematic tar pit an injustice, but it’s also a waste of our human capital. In 2014, the Congressional Budget Office reported that 16% of American men were incarcerated or jobless, an increase from 11% in 1980. The rate for minorities was much more significant than for Whites. So when we discuss masculinity, we can’t ignore race, education, culture, and poverty as essential factors. According to Psychology Today, “Mass shootings have tripled since 2011, with the majority carried out by young men, while young male suicide rates have increased fifty percent since 1994.”
While many attempt to create a language that clarifies and facilitates fruitful discussions, that same language can also serve as coded shorthand, allowing us to jump to conclusions. “Toxic masculinity” is the latest phrase for men’s anger and estrangement. Men can indeed be toxic, both to women and to each other. But not all men act that way. To promote those discussions, ask us questions about what we mean, especially on social media, where anonymity hides the context of our lives. “Why did you say that?” offers us a chance to explain (or reveal the misogyny we might defend).
Howard J. Ross, the author of Everyday Bias, says, “Learning to slow down decision-making, especially when it affects other people, can help reduce the impact of bias.” Our biases make us prone to reaction instead of reflection. In his book, Thinking, Fast and Slow, social psychologist Daniel Kahneman looked at how we make these decisions. According to Kahneman, we use two different systems to come to our conclusions. One is fast, automatic, and impulsive: full of impressions, intuition, and emotions. This is precisely what happens on social media. The second is slow and more considered and serves as our self-control. Kahneman writes, “Every human being has had the experience of not telling someone to go to hell.” We’ve become a reactive nation. Slowing down would make for more valuable discourse.
After a Facebook friend mentioned they were anxious, I suggested finding ways to calm down might be wise. Women immediately chastised me for telling a woman to calm down. To be honest, I didn’t even know my Facebook friend was a woman. Her online name was a gender-neutral “nom de plume.” Someone was upset, and that concerned me. I crossed a line without even knowing it.
Sometimes, I act like a “typical guy” despite my best efforts. I laugh—I’m still a work in progress, even at my age. Men can be prone to thoughtless mansplaining with women and other men (it’s part of our competitive, know-it-all nature). But that’s not what I was doing here. I backed off, not even attempting to explain. Cancel culture is indiscriminate and swift. We often talk over each other without listening. Anger in the absence of context is harmful. When groups gang up on individuals, it can be debilitating. Both men and women need to slow our reactions down to better gauge our responses.
After watching a recent Saturday Night Live sketch called “Man Park,” I lamented my lack of close male friends. This isolation has been especially hard for me during the pandemic. In the sketch, women come home to their boyfriends only to be inundated with non-stop chatter after their partners’ days alone. The women decide to take their BFs to the Man Park, where they can find social interaction and comradery. It takes a concerted effort for men to develop friendships, and they’re often more competitive than supportive. Robert Bly would probably approve of man parks, and I see franchise opportunities.
In reaction to this SNL sketch, Dr. Avrum Weiss wrote in “The High Cost of Loneliness,” boys start out feeling as connected in their friendships as girls do. But as they grow, they neglect personal relationships to pursue external success. This has been true for me. And many of my present relationships come about from being part of a couple. Weiss says, “Eighty percent of successful suicides are men, and one of the leading contributing factors is loneliness.” It’s as important a risk factor to longevity as exercise, smoking, and obesity.
Look at how we treat our veterans. We praise them for their strength and heroism on the battlefield, yet we do little for their PTSD when they return home. And, as women take on traditionally male roles, they encounter the same thing. Society often judges both women and men harshly when they express cross-gender behavior. Whatever our genders, our evolutions are intrinsically linked. Whether or not we like it, we’re in this together.
Like COVID vaccinations and mask mandates, Josh Hawley has politicized manhood, pointing to the left as a threat to men. It’s an oversimplification that does none of us any justice. The culmination of his argument is clear: “[The left wants] to define the traditional masculine virtues—things like courage, and independence, and assertiveness—as a danger to society.” This is nothing more than toxic propaganda. These are valuable assets in both men and women; the left has no interest in replacing them. If you’re concerned about men’s lives, invest in our empathy, not in political opportunism.
But there is room to reimagine what it means to be a man. And men need to take the lead. We need to create viable alternatives to the “good ole boy” network (often based on financial success). Nurturing the values that allow us to be more sensitive to others and attentive to our needs would help free ourselves from this unrealistic paradigm. Government and companies can help by creating policies that encourage us to spend more time with our families, like paid paternity leave. This would support new patterns for a successful life. Josh Hawley would find this ridiculous. Evolution will be slow given the multitudes who live by his contorted view.
Despite inroads into gender equality, men still value their fortitude above all—not only physical strength but the wherewithal to surmount any obstacle. This exacts an enormous price in our daily lives, and few fathers offer, let alone know any alternatives. Fewer talk to their sons about their passions and emotions, and peer pressure silences us.
Senator Hawley, our country’s founders, handed down a document that is a blueprint for how we live our lives as Americans. Your words offer no such plan. Instead, they perpetuate outdated stereotypes about men that cannot be sustained in the 21st century. They hurt rather than help us live our best lives. I’ve never forgotten what my father passed down to me. That legacy will go no further. And neither should yours.
Josh Hawley blames the left for men’s problems. Men like Josh Hawley are the problem.
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This group photo has been sitting in my archives for years. Our local island Pub is a gathering place for all types of interesting characters. These are just few. Sadly, the fellow--his name is Sonny-- in the grey patterned sweater has since passed away. He had many fascinating stories of horse racing, both professionally and as a hobby.
UBU as a manspreading King Canute, mansplaining Intelligence Quotient, whilst simultaneously holding back the tide.
"She is a very low IQ person", he continued.
Sometimes you can learn a lot about a person just by reading their bumper stickers... or in this case their backpack buttons.
This feminist "book nerd" was in front of me on the subway escalator.
When I got home and looked at it more closely, I got a real kick out of the boob tassels, and the anti-mansplaining and Nasty Woman messages.
You go, girl!
Oh the Bachmanity!
At Lucasfilm tonight. Kara Swisher interviewing the cast, writers and Mike Judge. Jared and Dinesh were hilarious. The SV CEO Richard said that he wished he could find more "Musk moguls", and he repeatedly lashed out at Snap, calling the spectacles a creep as he tossed them to the floor, and Jared mansplained: "Snapchat is just putting a mustache on the apocalypse." Ouch!
The first two episodes were fantastic, IMHO. Better than anything in the 3rd season. Whew!