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This is NOT my photo, I just did the fix-up on it for unconditionallove.
The original can be found here. www.flickr.com/photos/unconditionallove/2468607992/in/poo...
Mu point exactly. I always daily that and I make sure the people I care for know that. But when I see that they don't care or make an effort for it... you better believe it that I will let them gooooooooo. And it's really hard to make me come back. I could say hi and help you if you need me, but you will never have my #unconditionallove that would be long goneeee. So step wisely and decide if I'm worth it or not. #love #friendshipquotes #friendship #byefelicia - alegriass
Unconditional love is so rare because most connections are built on exchange and reinforcing how people see themselves. The reasons include:
Ego and Attachment:
Most people love from their ego: “I love you because you make me feel X.” When the behavior changes and no longer matches the original “idea” they had of the other person, their love contracts. That kind of love is conditional.
Transactional Conditioning
From childhood most people are conditioned to associate love with their performance. They get approval for good behavior and withdrawal for bad. That carries into adult relationships where people feel love is earned and can be taken back.
Emotional Safety Mechanisms
Unconditional love requires vulnerability. Most people use boundaries to protect themselves. “I’ll love you if you don’t betray me” isn't pure love..
Scarcity Mindset
You can only offer unconditional love when you don’t need anything from the other person. As long as you feel any inner lack, you may unconsciously demand others fill it. That sends you back to conditional love.
Fear of Power Imbalance
If you offer unconditional love while the other person withholds or manipulates, the relationship feels unsafe or exploitative. To prevent being the “fool,” most people have contingencies for withdrawing their love.
Our Culture Models Conditional Love
Songs, movies, and social norms usually show conditional love. It’s a result of loyalty, sexual exclusivity and emotional support.
When those terms get broken, the love is withdrawn. For that reason very few people have ever witnessed a living example of true, unconditional love..
Most people confuse healthy boundaries with conditions. But boundaries protect your space—not your ego.
When you can hold clear boundaries without demanding the other person change, submit, or reciprocate, unconditional love becomes possible.
It’s not a weakness. It’s the rarest strength.
Breathe. Drop in. 💗
Sending love.
Heal. Align. Thrive.
—Dr. Sattva