chapter 2...Children are tadpoles and adults are frogs!
Children are tadpoles and adults are frogs!
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If a foolish mother frog said to her tadpoles in the pool, “Come out of the water, breathe the fresh air, enjoy yourselves in the young grass, and you will all grow into strong healthy little frogs. Come along now, mother knows best!” and the little tadpoles tried to obey, it would certainly mean the end of tadpoles.
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And yet, that is how so many of us are trying to bring up our children. We are anxious that they shall grow into intelligent, useful citizens, with fine characters and good manners. And so we spend our time and patience correcting them, telling them to do this, not to do that, and when they want to know, “Why Mummy?”, we don’t stop to find out why we interfere, but put them off with “Mother knows best.”
These words were written by Dr Maria Montessori in one of her books “When Your Child Knows Better Than You.”
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This story was found here @...http://thefullmontessori.wordpress.com/2012/08/04/montessori-nuggets-when-your-child-knows-better-than-you/
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We all know the basics of a frog’s life cycle where the frog’s eggs are hatched in a water world and each tiny tadpole grows fatter and bigger. When the tiny tadpoles reach an optimum size their big fat tails start to shrink slowly as the tadpole begins to form large back legs and smaller front arms. Each tadpole takes on the form and shape of a frog that overnight stops returning to the water world to swim and breath to all of a sudden it's hopping and breathing in an air world.
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If you were to take the tadpole/child out of their water world and make them act like a frog/adult in the air world that poor little tadpole/child would not be able to survive. But this is what our western world society is calling parent/frogs and teacher/frogs to do more and more every day at every level of the evolving tadpole/child’s life.
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Children are falling over on mass throughout the western world and they are getting diagnosed, drugged and labelled with all sorts of disorders and learning difficulties let alone the food allergy epidemics hitting greater numbers with every new generation being born.
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Children are born with one major learning style dominate (visual, Audio and Kinaesthetic) and within a healthy family and school environment the child will naturally develop the other learning styles over time. If a child experiences any form of trauma or is not allowed to experience its tadpole/child world its other learning styles can become stunted.
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When the tadpole/child reaches the stage of its legs growing and its tail shrinking it is coming into an adolescent/frog stage. This adolescent/frog transition stage will be out of control the more the tadpole/child has not been allowed to develop within their rightful growing and learning environments. The more a tadpole/child has been forced to live as a frog/adult the more rebellious, risk taking, addictive responses, self absorbed, narcissistic, or withdrawn they become during this transition stage. People who say they were "LUCKY" with a mild child adolescent transitions need to know it had nothing to do with "LUCK".
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Over the past 50 years within the major parts of western society children have gone from being able to play freely around their homes experiencing and learning within nature to now being prisoners enslaved in relative isolation in large sterile adult lifestyles and homes.
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Most children, 50 years ago had fresh and natural raw foods and learning to socialize while playing team games or adventures together. These children also had very few man made toys and only were under mum and dads feet for very short periods of time each day. These children climbed trees, swam in rivers and built cubby houses out of what was lying around within their natural environments. These children usually bathed in a bucket and had to conserve everything they had. They would have lived in very small houses with only two bedrooms; one for mum and dad and the other for the children.
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Now in today’s world, only 50 years later most western families live in huge houses with no outside or for that matter inside place to be messy or to run a muck which is critical for tadpole/children’s developmental needs. They have indoor frog/adult sterile environments and only allowed to "PLAY" in set places with so much plastic and over coloured toys that leave very little room for any tadpole/child's imagination or creative investigation to stimulate their growing and developing brains.
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Most of these tadpole/children are supervised at all times by frog/adults and are very rarely encouraged to do anything other than 'PLAY' with no mess and easy to clean activities such as X/Box, IPhones, IPads or other super new technical "GAMES" which mascaraed as "PLAYING and GAMES" and are highly addictive.
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These tadpole/children get very little exercise and over eat excessively sugared, preserved, artificially coloured and processed foods which are also highly addictive. The pay off for this is tadpole/children who are very quite which leaves parents to do their own thing. No parenting is taking place in these situations just more and more over indulged tadpole/children.
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There is a false sense of safety for the tadpole/children when they are quietly engaged in screen gaming or entertainment when they need to be running, playing and planning adventures with other children. What dangers remain hidden during the time of the tadpole/child show up in the frog/youth and young frog/adult stages when they become unable to maintain any long term work commitments, inability to established ongoing lasting relationships or become heavily addicted to drugs, substance abuse, eating disorders etc.
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The main reasons I believe this has happened so universally, throughout the western world, over such a short period of time is the combination of the advancing evolutionary developments of each new generation of tadpole/children being missed by the frog/adults combined with the story lines being sold to them through the media and entertainment industries.
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The media and entertainment industries have been selling life styles and images of what is cool and what is not cool and frog/adults have blindly been following without even a second to question the ramifications or long lasting effects.
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When the frog/adults attempt to apply the story lines that they have seen and learned from the entertainment and media industries and it does not work for them or their tadpole/child they become very confused and either believe it’s their fault and become depressed or far too often it is seen as their tadpole/child’s fault which means the tadpole/children have to be fixed so they will be able to fit into the image or life style expectations the entertainment and media industries have sold to them.
-
The image or life style expectations the entertainment and media industries have sold to these frog/adults over and over again, day in and day out throughout all their own developing years; watching and believing in these stories they have been spun. When these stories, life style and image beliefs start to crack open and collapse around them when their tadpole/children and frog/adult partner do not behave as they have been led to believe they should behave these frog/adults head off to doctors and on mass are being prescribed anti-depressants.
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We now have so many families where a parent adult/frog or both are on anti-depressants and their tadpole/children are medicated for some modern day disorder not known of 60 years ago.
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Let’s look back to the indigenous stage of humanity and look at how children, mothers and fathers related to each other then. Who tort the children? How where the children parented? Where did the parents learn how to parent each new generation of children? What kind of relationships did each generation have with younger or older members?
Human beings have learned for thousands and thousands of years to know how to parent by simply watching what their own families or by watching the collective tribe or village adults.
-
Developing trends in parenting have been observed and simply taken on board by each new generation without any real thinking or for that matter questioning for far too many years.
-
When the very first photographs came out of Queen Victoria’s family around their Christmas tree in their Royal living room the middle class in England kick started what is now pumped into our homes any hour of the day or night with a simple hit of a button. Stories to inform you what is the coolest and most fashionable way to parent, what it looks like, what should be eaten, when to eat it, how to furnish the perfect home, what your relationship with your partner should look like.
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Who are you going to listen to to guide you on how to parent, on how to live, how to dress, how to furnish your home, how to have a relationship with your partner, how to have a friendship, how to think?
Please email me with your thoughts or questions...tturnerdesigns@iinet.net.au
chapter 2...Children are tadpoles and adults are frogs!
Children are tadpoles and adults are frogs!
-
If a foolish mother frog said to her tadpoles in the pool, “Come out of the water, breathe the fresh air, enjoy yourselves in the young grass, and you will all grow into strong healthy little frogs. Come along now, mother knows best!” and the little tadpoles tried to obey, it would certainly mean the end of tadpoles.
-
And yet, that is how so many of us are trying to bring up our children. We are anxious that they shall grow into intelligent, useful citizens, with fine characters and good manners. And so we spend our time and patience correcting them, telling them to do this, not to do that, and when they want to know, “Why Mummy?”, we don’t stop to find out why we interfere, but put them off with “Mother knows best.”
These words were written by Dr Maria Montessori in one of her books “When Your Child Knows Better Than You.”
-
This story was found here @...http://thefullmontessori.wordpress.com/2012/08/04/montessori-nuggets-when-your-child-knows-better-than-you/
-
We all know the basics of a frog’s life cycle where the frog’s eggs are hatched in a water world and each tiny tadpole grows fatter and bigger. When the tiny tadpoles reach an optimum size their big fat tails start to shrink slowly as the tadpole begins to form large back legs and smaller front arms. Each tadpole takes on the form and shape of a frog that overnight stops returning to the water world to swim and breath to all of a sudden it's hopping and breathing in an air world.
-
If you were to take the tadpole/child out of their water world and make them act like a frog/adult in the air world that poor little tadpole/child would not be able to survive. But this is what our western world society is calling parent/frogs and teacher/frogs to do more and more every day at every level of the evolving tadpole/child’s life.
-
Children are falling over on mass throughout the western world and they are getting diagnosed, drugged and labelled with all sorts of disorders and learning difficulties let alone the food allergy epidemics hitting greater numbers with every new generation being born.
-
Children are born with one major learning style dominate (visual, Audio and Kinaesthetic) and within a healthy family and school environment the child will naturally develop the other learning styles over time. If a child experiences any form of trauma or is not allowed to experience its tadpole/child world its other learning styles can become stunted.
-
When the tadpole/child reaches the stage of its legs growing and its tail shrinking it is coming into an adolescent/frog stage. This adolescent/frog transition stage will be out of control the more the tadpole/child has not been allowed to develop within their rightful growing and learning environments. The more a tadpole/child has been forced to live as a frog/adult the more rebellious, risk taking, addictive responses, self absorbed, narcissistic, or withdrawn they become during this transition stage. People who say they were "LUCKY" with a mild child adolescent transitions need to know it had nothing to do with "LUCK".
-
Over the past 50 years within the major parts of western society children have gone from being able to play freely around their homes experiencing and learning within nature to now being prisoners enslaved in relative isolation in large sterile adult lifestyles and homes.
-
Most children, 50 years ago had fresh and natural raw foods and learning to socialize while playing team games or adventures together. These children also had very few man made toys and only were under mum and dads feet for very short periods of time each day. These children climbed trees, swam in rivers and built cubby houses out of what was lying around within their natural environments. These children usually bathed in a bucket and had to conserve everything they had. They would have lived in very small houses with only two bedrooms; one for mum and dad and the other for the children.
-
Now in today’s world, only 50 years later most western families live in huge houses with no outside or for that matter inside place to be messy or to run a muck which is critical for tadpole/children’s developmental needs. They have indoor frog/adult sterile environments and only allowed to "PLAY" in set places with so much plastic and over coloured toys that leave very little room for any tadpole/child's imagination or creative investigation to stimulate their growing and developing brains.
-
Most of these tadpole/children are supervised at all times by frog/adults and are very rarely encouraged to do anything other than 'PLAY' with no mess and easy to clean activities such as X/Box, IPhones, IPads or other super new technical "GAMES" which mascaraed as "PLAYING and GAMES" and are highly addictive.
-
These tadpole/children get very little exercise and over eat excessively sugared, preserved, artificially coloured and processed foods which are also highly addictive. The pay off for this is tadpole/children who are very quite which leaves parents to do their own thing. No parenting is taking place in these situations just more and more over indulged tadpole/children.
-
There is a false sense of safety for the tadpole/children when they are quietly engaged in screen gaming or entertainment when they need to be running, playing and planning adventures with other children. What dangers remain hidden during the time of the tadpole/child show up in the frog/youth and young frog/adult stages when they become unable to maintain any long term work commitments, inability to established ongoing lasting relationships or become heavily addicted to drugs, substance abuse, eating disorders etc.
-
The main reasons I believe this has happened so universally, throughout the western world, over such a short period of time is the combination of the advancing evolutionary developments of each new generation of tadpole/children being missed by the frog/adults combined with the story lines being sold to them through the media and entertainment industries.
-
The media and entertainment industries have been selling life styles and images of what is cool and what is not cool and frog/adults have blindly been following without even a second to question the ramifications or long lasting effects.
-
When the frog/adults attempt to apply the story lines that they have seen and learned from the entertainment and media industries and it does not work for them or their tadpole/child they become very confused and either believe it’s their fault and become depressed or far too often it is seen as their tadpole/child’s fault which means the tadpole/children have to be fixed so they will be able to fit into the image or life style expectations the entertainment and media industries have sold to them.
-
The image or life style expectations the entertainment and media industries have sold to these frog/adults over and over again, day in and day out throughout all their own developing years; watching and believing in these stories they have been spun. When these stories, life style and image beliefs start to crack open and collapse around them when their tadpole/children and frog/adult partner do not behave as they have been led to believe they should behave these frog/adults head off to doctors and on mass are being prescribed anti-depressants.
-
We now have so many families where a parent adult/frog or both are on anti-depressants and their tadpole/children are medicated for some modern day disorder not known of 60 years ago.
-
Let’s look back to the indigenous stage of humanity and look at how children, mothers and fathers related to each other then. Who tort the children? How where the children parented? Where did the parents learn how to parent each new generation of children? What kind of relationships did each generation have with younger or older members?
Human beings have learned for thousands and thousands of years to know how to parent by simply watching what their own families or by watching the collective tribe or village adults.
-
Developing trends in parenting have been observed and simply taken on board by each new generation without any real thinking or for that matter questioning for far too many years.
-
When the very first photographs came out of Queen Victoria’s family around their Christmas tree in their Royal living room the middle class in England kick started what is now pumped into our homes any hour of the day or night with a simple hit of a button. Stories to inform you what is the coolest and most fashionable way to parent, what it looks like, what should be eaten, when to eat it, how to furnish the perfect home, what your relationship with your partner should look like.
-
Who are you going to listen to to guide you on how to parent, on how to live, how to dress, how to furnish your home, how to have a relationship with your partner, how to have a friendship, how to think?
Please email me with your thoughts or questions...tturnerdesigns@iinet.net.au