Janet Leadbeater
Don't Look Past Me | Lust
Don't look past me, photo essay. Part 3 of 3.
There is growing interest in how porn affects loving relationships. In some relationships, the use of porn may be an acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse when a partner is absent, or unable to or unwilling for sex. It is reported, in one study from Norway, that couples where both partners used porn were the most open about their desires, and reported the least sexual dysfunction (5). However, when only one partner watched pornography, men were the least sexually aroused, and women had the lowest levels of self-esteem (5). Secrecy over porn usage ultimately develops into distrust when discovered. When one partner chooses to watch porn and masturbate, rather than having sex with their partner, it leads to their partner feeling dissatisfied with their body-image and the relationship itself (6).
Healthy sex in a relationship is based on intimacy and long term commitment. Porn is about new experiences and intensity. It is reported that self-masturbation with porn is a intense experience, often a 'quick-fix'. However, consistently choosing intensity over intimacy is only going to end in hurt. Open communication is essential to exploring this topic and resolving issues in any loving relationship.
1. www.pornresearch.org/Firstsummaryforwebsite.pdf
2. onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1559-1816.1988.tb00...
4. www.yourbrainonporn.com/post-orgasmic-prolactin-increase-...
5. blogs.menshealth.com/health-headlines/is-porn-bumming-you...
6. www.socialcostsofpornography.com/Bridges_Pornographys_Eff...
Don't Look Past Me | Lust
Don't look past me, photo essay. Part 3 of 3.
There is growing interest in how porn affects loving relationships. In some relationships, the use of porn may be an acceptable alternative to sexual intercourse when a partner is absent, or unable to or unwilling for sex. It is reported, in one study from Norway, that couples where both partners used porn were the most open about their desires, and reported the least sexual dysfunction (5). However, when only one partner watched pornography, men were the least sexually aroused, and women had the lowest levels of self-esteem (5). Secrecy over porn usage ultimately develops into distrust when discovered. When one partner chooses to watch porn and masturbate, rather than having sex with their partner, it leads to their partner feeling dissatisfied with their body-image and the relationship itself (6).
Healthy sex in a relationship is based on intimacy and long term commitment. Porn is about new experiences and intensity. It is reported that self-masturbation with porn is a intense experience, often a 'quick-fix'. However, consistently choosing intensity over intimacy is only going to end in hurt. Open communication is essential to exploring this topic and resolving issues in any loving relationship.
1. www.pornresearch.org/Firstsummaryforwebsite.pdf
2. onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1559-1816.1988.tb00...
4. www.yourbrainonporn.com/post-orgasmic-prolactin-increase-...
5. blogs.menshealth.com/health-headlines/is-porn-bumming-you...
6. www.socialcostsofpornography.com/Bridges_Pornographys_Eff...