Elvisgirl54
My mother's headstone
My Sister,
You know you have been a real horrible sister...how do you sleep? You say she is at peace...I say She cannot be! You didn't do what she wanted! Period. That is the long and the short of it, Shirley Deane. How could you keep this fight of ours alive...this division of her children. Her last wish was for Unity sister...but you're stubborn and cannot admit when you are wrong. She was that way too. You used to understand the problem with that kind of thinking...but you want her bad traits to be your as well? She made me EQUAL to you and Patrick.
I will bitch, and moan, and from the top of the world until I die- Expose you! You owe me an apology and you owe me 12.5% of My Mother's Estate, photos, dolls, jewelry and the rest of what I did not even get to look at ever again. I will tell everyone The Truth...you remember the Truth Shirley? Remember promising your little sister to love her and grow old with her...Viola's Jewelry, all the promises are broken like Our Sisterhood. You walked in her apt and said to me" What the fuck are you doing here...LEAVE!"and of course "we" know the rest of it...don't we Shirley, and Mother! You let that and mom's decision change everything between us...WHY? I know who I am, what I am. You wanna go back and throw my past in my face...write it down?
I am going write a book...Yet you put others down all the time...if half of our relatives knew what you were saying about them behind their backs...for shame sister. I am ashamed of you.
Sometimes I wanna beat your ass - other times I want to just hold you in my arms. What you said and did in front of Mom was unforgivable Shirley...the things you have done since...despicable. I want my share, my Inheritance. I have your Bible, Joe handed it to me, if you had not run him off, Shari and anyone else you felt like taking away from her- you would have it now...he was mink oiling it for her, and never got to give it back-because of YOU! Momma loved her Shirley...for whatever reasons she loved a lot of other people as well.
You were her favorite...we all knew that. Kevin was too. Sure he hurt her...but that was her favorite son, I've heard her tell him that many times. You cannot rewrite her history, her will her children. You have disgraced us All Shirley- The Cavender Siblings..we look so dysfunctional and you relish in it!. So many know what you really have done to me...and NO ONE agrees - except your own subjects and most disagree/but cannot tell you for fear of your wrath. You can follow web-sites tell you die, I will never stop until this is made right!. You can read my story...I am publishing it, I have a contract with Random. Now you have the power to Unite Sylvia's family...you have the Power to forgive whatever the hell it is you think I did to YOU! I did nothing, I took up for you, when
Momma told me she was changing Executor's, she was scared you would sell her house, that is what you had been telling her. You did this...by being mean to her, trying to get her to leave Yates Center...that is why she called me...we both fell right in and then you went crazy! How come none of you knew?
Kevin was there 3 years...yet no one cared about him living with her, caring for her. They enabled each other at that time. Of course she was dying...she had been for years and years...she had a disease and you all acted like it just could not be, What? No way...yeah, a here is a NewsFlash Shirley..We are Next!
What you did to me at her Funeral, Grandmother's Funeral as well...is now History. You have been so mean, so unloving to me. You do not deserve me as your sister Shirley. I am very different than you. I love unconditionally, I give my heart and it stays where I left it Forever. You have hurt me more that anyone in the world! I cannot stress to you more...This whole thing since I called from her hospital room has been the worst time in my life! You have taken from me not only my birthright and my Inheritance...you try to take my Mother...but My mother loved me...whether you like it or not Shirley...God is going to ask you one day...what you have done to your sister...? I fear you will pay dearly for this choice you have made! I pray you fix this...before YOU pass...please for your own Soul's Sake! There was/is enough to share...she wrote what she wanted, she signed it in front of YOU on your birthday! How do you explain all the lies now? We never tried to take Daddy's $$, Bruce Harrington told me about the Topeka trip! Despicable! My treatment at my mother's Funeral, horrifying, the letter, the obituary's all of them hers and Daddy's...don't you realize everyone knows about your greed? My book will make it clear...wouldn't be great if it made me $$$ :) How you treated Mom...when Rocky died..you and Pat...you could have cared less that Momma was grieving, all you thought about was bad, and what he did to you! I defended you both and hoped you would come around and you did, hell you gave me an 1/8 of really good weed. Thanks:) I also was with her that entire time, Gale too. I tried to help her, I told you what she was going through you still were mean. The when it all became too real, that she was truly leaving us...you did what you do best-you struck out at me and you refuse to believe you can ever do wrong to Kelly...who the fuck does she think she is??? Who do you think I am Shirley? Do you know me...my heart? Who and how deep is My Love for My Family, For My one and Only Mother?
You are not too bright lately, have you had your head and heart looked at? Maybe you should see a Doctor? Want to go to Family Counseling Shirley, my Treat? I think we should or would you rather this fester to a stinking rotten time in hell?
Put yourself in my shoes, be me...think of what has gone on the last 6 years...be me...How would you feel about your big sister?
www.facebook.com/pages/Whos-Will-Family-Losse s/1284834505...
Fix this Shirley, I love you...you will always be mine. We could get past all of this division. Mom could truly be at Peace...not just your wishful thinking( she is PISSED-She was of a sound mind-(her body no) but her mind sharp...give to me what she wanted me to have. I want my wedding rings and my star sapphire& platinum ring, I want Viola's Jewelry, my dolls, I want copies of photos, I want 12.5 % and I want Mike to give Tj his share -he is 18 and he wants it. I want my beautiful sister in my life but how can I ever trust this woman with love again? God is the only help we have sister. I want a family Reunion...to bad your half won't be there...Shirley WAKE UP...You are Killing ME! MY blood pressure is high, hurt for you, I beg you to stop this assault on me, Kevin, Joe( those two are so lost), the moment you do...everyone else will come together like she wanted1 You told her a Findagrave...she could be at Peace again. Shirley she is not...how can she be? The Will was not kept...and you took 3 of her babies away from her and her greats. How can She be at Peace? All because YOU love her...sorry dear sister...you are not an only child. She loved us all, you have no right to rewrite her history, kids or Will!
I pray that you read this and understand I am so hurt and angry. I try daily to not feel this pain, but it is a constant. Do you really hate me so much Shirley that you would slowly kill me like this? Please don't - Please love me as I love you. Please let's show this fucked-up world nothing can break Our Family again...that we are United and we do love each other...everyone wants Unity except you! I will forgive you Shirley...I promise I will. it has been so very hard losing her, you Clay, Shannon, Brandie, Brooke, Mikie, Bobbie, Jace......your momma died- well, my momma died and half my family died with her- because of YOU. Don't you miss Nicholl'e? She wishes she could invite you all to her Wedding next month. Don't you miss Victor...he has been so down, really hurt, I worry about him. I have four new Grans, one from Joe and 3 from Nic's David. everyone wants to see us together again like Mom wanted! This is so unfair to my kids- to me, to Kevin & Joe(she loved them)it is the worst Injustice of My Lifetime...and it comes straight from your hateful heart. What you have done is Civil fraud and I can and might file formal charges against you and Mikie, you sure sent and provided solid proof of my case...they want me to file...Bel Aire PD, advised me to and I already knew what my rights are.My IQ is very high! I could have sued in Probate Court, I thought about, got advice. I believe Mom would not have wanted me to do that...sue my sister and nephew, so I didn't. I believe she will try to move this mountain of pain if I keep praying and talking, sharing, publishing and in general....haunt your thoughts as you do mine- until you make this right! For me, for her, for the others you have ostracized. Please Shirley just get this over with. You and him have more that you will ever need, you have many blessings. I am poor, I could have really used that 12.5% share of my mother's will . Does that make me greedy? I have never been greedy and it is not about the property or $...it is about my birthright and my big sister's Vendetta. SAVE ME SHIRLEY...I AM DYING...LIKE A PLANT IN THE SUN WITH NO WATER...I PRAY FOR RAIN ! I know what losing mom was like for you, how much and how close you two always were, I would never say less. But Shirley I loved her and she loved me...had it not been for Joe...we probably would have had better times, but we made up, you know this...because you were there too. Where are you now? How can you just go in and out of people's life when they displease you? You do it to lots of us...think about it. Shirley, I was not put on this earth to please you...I am just a struggling human trying to make the most of love, life and my family. If it were not for Victor and Nicholl'e loving me...there would be no one here that does. I Thank God for that...and I pray for you and I to stop and realize we are losing precious time and we both love and want Momma at Peace. She can be...but you have to make good on her wishes, her will, her life, her children. I miss you so much Shirley, everyday i wish you were my sister again, I am sorry, I did not do whatever it is you think I did! I swear, I have always been on your side...until you choked me 4-6-2007 and began hating me again...God you were me down, you take my family, my joy, my future greats and it hurts so bad Shirley, I hope no one ever hurts you like you have done to me. I would not wish this injustice or pain on anyone! I want my sister back, I want Mom's will to be DONE...not Undone. Shirley you are not dumb...Do the right thing...Fix this PLEASE...I miss you guys, I miss Momma....I want to share her pictures...I HAVE HARDLY ANY! I have loved you much better then you have loved me...let's do this Shirley...it is in your hands to make the Cavender a whole United family...It is sooooo Broken right now. I do not deserve this and I fight back with renewed strength!You have broken me Shirley, I am a mess, I cry all the time, my heart breaks I swear I hear new cracks everyday I miss you. Every day my Mother is Not At Rest..We are Not United...She wants us UNITED SHIRLEY...don't you get it????????? Kelly Ann
TheKelly50 (1 second ago)
You can run behind me and clean all you want Shirley...after all it is YOUR MESS...you made it, you clean it up! Quit being so stubborn and wait for one of us to die before Your eyes open. We are The Cavender's...Mom wants us United Shirley! Humble yourself and give me back my heritage and all that it entails...you are being so hurtful and unfair. Do you really expect me not to fight back at this terrible treatment and thing that you have done to me- to us-to The Whole Cavender Family. Stop The Division! Forgive and Be Forgiven!!!! Kelly Ann...your little sister.
My mother's headstone
My Sister,
You know you have been a real horrible sister...how do you sleep? You say she is at peace...I say She cannot be! You didn't do what she wanted! Period. That is the long and the short of it, Shirley Deane. How could you keep this fight of ours alive...this division of her children. Her last wish was for Unity sister...but you're stubborn and cannot admit when you are wrong. She was that way too. You used to understand the problem with that kind of thinking...but you want her bad traits to be your as well? She made me EQUAL to you and Patrick.
I will bitch, and moan, and from the top of the world until I die- Expose you! You owe me an apology and you owe me 12.5% of My Mother's Estate, photos, dolls, jewelry and the rest of what I did not even get to look at ever again. I will tell everyone The Truth...you remember the Truth Shirley? Remember promising your little sister to love her and grow old with her...Viola's Jewelry, all the promises are broken like Our Sisterhood. You walked in her apt and said to me" What the fuck are you doing here...LEAVE!"and of course "we" know the rest of it...don't we Shirley, and Mother! You let that and mom's decision change everything between us...WHY? I know who I am, what I am. You wanna go back and throw my past in my face...write it down?
I am going write a book...Yet you put others down all the time...if half of our relatives knew what you were saying about them behind their backs...for shame sister. I am ashamed of you.
Sometimes I wanna beat your ass - other times I want to just hold you in my arms. What you said and did in front of Mom was unforgivable Shirley...the things you have done since...despicable. I want my share, my Inheritance. I have your Bible, Joe handed it to me, if you had not run him off, Shari and anyone else you felt like taking away from her- you would have it now...he was mink oiling it for her, and never got to give it back-because of YOU! Momma loved her Shirley...for whatever reasons she loved a lot of other people as well.
You were her favorite...we all knew that. Kevin was too. Sure he hurt her...but that was her favorite son, I've heard her tell him that many times. You cannot rewrite her history, her will her children. You have disgraced us All Shirley- The Cavender Siblings..we look so dysfunctional and you relish in it!. So many know what you really have done to me...and NO ONE agrees - except your own subjects and most disagree/but cannot tell you for fear of your wrath. You can follow web-sites tell you die, I will never stop until this is made right!. You can read my story...I am publishing it, I have a contract with Random. Now you have the power to Unite Sylvia's family...you have the Power to forgive whatever the hell it is you think I did to YOU! I did nothing, I took up for you, when
Momma told me she was changing Executor's, she was scared you would sell her house, that is what you had been telling her. You did this...by being mean to her, trying to get her to leave Yates Center...that is why she called me...we both fell right in and then you went crazy! How come none of you knew?
Kevin was there 3 years...yet no one cared about him living with her, caring for her. They enabled each other at that time. Of course she was dying...she had been for years and years...she had a disease and you all acted like it just could not be, What? No way...yeah, a here is a NewsFlash Shirley..We are Next!
What you did to me at her Funeral, Grandmother's Funeral as well...is now History. You have been so mean, so unloving to me. You do not deserve me as your sister Shirley. I am very different than you. I love unconditionally, I give my heart and it stays where I left it Forever. You have hurt me more that anyone in the world! I cannot stress to you more...This whole thing since I called from her hospital room has been the worst time in my life! You have taken from me not only my birthright and my Inheritance...you try to take my Mother...but My mother loved me...whether you like it or not Shirley...God is going to ask you one day...what you have done to your sister...? I fear you will pay dearly for this choice you have made! I pray you fix this...before YOU pass...please for your own Soul's Sake! There was/is enough to share...she wrote what she wanted, she signed it in front of YOU on your birthday! How do you explain all the lies now? We never tried to take Daddy's $$, Bruce Harrington told me about the Topeka trip! Despicable! My treatment at my mother's Funeral, horrifying, the letter, the obituary's all of them hers and Daddy's...don't you realize everyone knows about your greed? My book will make it clear...wouldn't be great if it made me $$$ :) How you treated Mom...when Rocky died..you and Pat...you could have cared less that Momma was grieving, all you thought about was bad, and what he did to you! I defended you both and hoped you would come around and you did, hell you gave me an 1/8 of really good weed. Thanks:) I also was with her that entire time, Gale too. I tried to help her, I told you what she was going through you still were mean. The when it all became too real, that she was truly leaving us...you did what you do best-you struck out at me and you refuse to believe you can ever do wrong to Kelly...who the fuck does she think she is??? Who do you think I am Shirley? Do you know me...my heart? Who and how deep is My Love for My Family, For My one and Only Mother?
You are not too bright lately, have you had your head and heart looked at? Maybe you should see a Doctor? Want to go to Family Counseling Shirley, my Treat? I think we should or would you rather this fester to a stinking rotten time in hell?
Put yourself in my shoes, be me...think of what has gone on the last 6 years...be me...How would you feel about your big sister?
www.facebook.com/pages/Whos-Will-Family-Losse s/1284834505...
Fix this Shirley, I love you...you will always be mine. We could get past all of this division. Mom could truly be at Peace...not just your wishful thinking( she is PISSED-She was of a sound mind-(her body no) but her mind sharp...give to me what she wanted me to have. I want my wedding rings and my star sapphire& platinum ring, I want Viola's Jewelry, my dolls, I want copies of photos, I want 12.5 % and I want Mike to give Tj his share -he is 18 and he wants it. I want my beautiful sister in my life but how can I ever trust this woman with love again? God is the only help we have sister. I want a family Reunion...to bad your half won't be there...Shirley WAKE UP...You are Killing ME! MY blood pressure is high, hurt for you, I beg you to stop this assault on me, Kevin, Joe( those two are so lost), the moment you do...everyone else will come together like she wanted1 You told her a Findagrave...she could be at Peace again. Shirley she is not...how can she be? The Will was not kept...and you took 3 of her babies away from her and her greats. How can She be at Peace? All because YOU love her...sorry dear sister...you are not an only child. She loved us all, you have no right to rewrite her history, kids or Will!
I pray that you read this and understand I am so hurt and angry. I try daily to not feel this pain, but it is a constant. Do you really hate me so much Shirley that you would slowly kill me like this? Please don't - Please love me as I love you. Please let's show this fucked-up world nothing can break Our Family again...that we are United and we do love each other...everyone wants Unity except you! I will forgive you Shirley...I promise I will. it has been so very hard losing her, you Clay, Shannon, Brandie, Brooke, Mikie, Bobbie, Jace......your momma died- well, my momma died and half my family died with her- because of YOU. Don't you miss Nicholl'e? She wishes she could invite you all to her Wedding next month. Don't you miss Victor...he has been so down, really hurt, I worry about him. I have four new Grans, one from Joe and 3 from Nic's David. everyone wants to see us together again like Mom wanted! This is so unfair to my kids- to me, to Kevin & Joe(she loved them)it is the worst Injustice of My Lifetime...and it comes straight from your hateful heart. What you have done is Civil fraud and I can and might file formal charges against you and Mikie, you sure sent and provided solid proof of my case...they want me to file...Bel Aire PD, advised me to and I already knew what my rights are.My IQ is very high! I could have sued in Probate Court, I thought about, got advice. I believe Mom would not have wanted me to do that...sue my sister and nephew, so I didn't. I believe she will try to move this mountain of pain if I keep praying and talking, sharing, publishing and in general....haunt your thoughts as you do mine- until you make this right! For me, for her, for the others you have ostracized. Please Shirley just get this over with. You and him have more that you will ever need, you have many blessings. I am poor, I could have really used that 12.5% share of my mother's will . Does that make me greedy? I have never been greedy and it is not about the property or $...it is about my birthright and my big sister's Vendetta. SAVE ME SHIRLEY...I AM DYING...LIKE A PLANT IN THE SUN WITH NO WATER...I PRAY FOR RAIN ! I know what losing mom was like for you, how much and how close you two always were, I would never say less. But Shirley I loved her and she loved me...had it not been for Joe...we probably would have had better times, but we made up, you know this...because you were there too. Where are you now? How can you just go in and out of people's life when they displease you? You do it to lots of us...think about it. Shirley, I was not put on this earth to please you...I am just a struggling human trying to make the most of love, life and my family. If it were not for Victor and Nicholl'e loving me...there would be no one here that does. I Thank God for that...and I pray for you and I to stop and realize we are losing precious time and we both love and want Momma at Peace. She can be...but you have to make good on her wishes, her will, her life, her children. I miss you so much Shirley, everyday i wish you were my sister again, I am sorry, I did not do whatever it is you think I did! I swear, I have always been on your side...until you choked me 4-6-2007 and began hating me again...God you were me down, you take my family, my joy, my future greats and it hurts so bad Shirley, I hope no one ever hurts you like you have done to me. I would not wish this injustice or pain on anyone! I want my sister back, I want Mom's will to be DONE...not Undone. Shirley you are not dumb...Do the right thing...Fix this PLEASE...I miss you guys, I miss Momma....I want to share her pictures...I HAVE HARDLY ANY! I have loved you much better then you have loved me...let's do this Shirley...it is in your hands to make the Cavender a whole United family...It is sooooo Broken right now. I do not deserve this and I fight back with renewed strength!You have broken me Shirley, I am a mess, I cry all the time, my heart breaks I swear I hear new cracks everyday I miss you. Every day my Mother is Not At Rest..We are Not United...She wants us UNITED SHIRLEY...don't you get it????????? Kelly Ann
TheKelly50 (1 second ago)
You can run behind me and clean all you want Shirley...after all it is YOUR MESS...you made it, you clean it up! Quit being so stubborn and wait for one of us to die before Your eyes open. We are The Cavender's...Mom wants us United Shirley! Humble yourself and give me back my heritage and all that it entails...you are being so hurtful and unfair. Do you really expect me not to fight back at this terrible treatment and thing that you have done to me- to us-to The Whole Cavender Family. Stop The Division! Forgive and Be Forgiven!!!! Kelly Ann...your little sister.