DaveThorpe
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PARENTS: As a parent you may find yourself frustrated because your child is not performing to your expectations. Parents want to be able to pass their legacy on to their kids, but the child seems unwilling or unable to “do the right things”. The child may do well in certain areas, but is not excelling in others. The parent wants to help in those areas. The parents want to do the “right thing”. Often the mother sees the child in conflict with the father figure and sees no possible resolution in sight, which increases her desire to find a “safe haven” to protect the child. The parent may realize they communication at home is basic and home life is not really encouraging to the child. While the parent provides everything they have a certain level of expectation for the child to “step up to the plate”, which does not happen usually due to family dynamics of:
A.Communication between parent/child is not effective
B.Discipline in house hold lacking and usually enforced by yelling or anger
C.Parent has not been able to pass on their “knowledge” to child and feels they are not doing their job well
D.Little time is spent in family discussions and when time is spent the discussions usually end in someone being upset
E.Conversations tend to be short and parents tailor them to “did you do this…” or “why did you do that”.
F.The parent does desperately not want to be a COP, but since the child has little respect for parents issues, parents continue to be the COP.
STUDENTS and YOUNG ADULTS: The student is attending class in high school, college, or junior college, but has no clear path to as to where their education will lead them. They feel uncertain, hesitant, maybe lacking in conviction of their direction. “Where am I going?” “What is my direction in life?” Education permits them freedom from having to announce what they intend to do in life, but these are the times they should be struggling with these questions and starting to formulate a worldview. They seek purpose but have not found it in their friends, mentors, family relationships, school work, hobbies, activities, religion, or work. The student knows they want to do something in life but indecision, inability to develop a vision, and distrust of the system cause them emptiness. This may cause them to appear isolated to their parents, as the student is certainly not communicating well with them. The student may have peer relationships with little value (just hanging around), may have no mentors, they may have weak knowledge of where success is available to them, and they may have little ability to articulate who they are and what means something to them. Most certainly they don’t have a picture in their mind of what their destination “looks like” and are relatively blindly seeking direction to something satisfying to them.
ADULTS: Are your objectives being accomplished? Are you experiencing frustration and or desire for change? Some of life’s challenges may encourage you to search for alternative solutions. Where are you turning for satisfaction and joy? Do you have healthy outlets that encourage positive behavior? As an adult do you have a clear view of your destination in life? Do you have a course of action you believe in? Do you have someone like a friend or mentor or coach encouraging you to follow it? But the plan if there is one is in disarray and the adult lacks accountability to following it. Since the plan is in-effective or there is none, the adult just fills their day with sameness hoping for a change that never comes. They feel rudderless. While they may be fun on the outside, they are desperate internally. They really want a solution to their frustration with life.
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PARENTS: As a parent you may find yourself frustrated because your child is not performing to your expectations. Parents want to be able to pass their legacy on to their kids, but the child seems unwilling or unable to “do the right things”. The child may do well in certain areas, but is not excelling in others. The parent wants to help in those areas. The parents want to do the “right thing”. Often the mother sees the child in conflict with the father figure and sees no possible resolution in sight, which increases her desire to find a “safe haven” to protect the child. The parent may realize they communication at home is basic and home life is not really encouraging to the child. While the parent provides everything they have a certain level of expectation for the child to “step up to the plate”, which does not happen usually due to family dynamics of:
A.Communication between parent/child is not effective
B.Discipline in house hold lacking and usually enforced by yelling or anger
C.Parent has not been able to pass on their “knowledge” to child and feels they are not doing their job well
D.Little time is spent in family discussions and when time is spent the discussions usually end in someone being upset
E.Conversations tend to be short and parents tailor them to “did you do this…” or “why did you do that”.
F.The parent does desperately not want to be a COP, but since the child has little respect for parents issues, parents continue to be the COP.
STUDENTS and YOUNG ADULTS: The student is attending class in high school, college, or junior college, but has no clear path to as to where their education will lead them. They feel uncertain, hesitant, maybe lacking in conviction of their direction. “Where am I going?” “What is my direction in life?” Education permits them freedom from having to announce what they intend to do in life, but these are the times they should be struggling with these questions and starting to formulate a worldview. They seek purpose but have not found it in their friends, mentors, family relationships, school work, hobbies, activities, religion, or work. The student knows they want to do something in life but indecision, inability to develop a vision, and distrust of the system cause them emptiness. This may cause them to appear isolated to their parents, as the student is certainly not communicating well with them. The student may have peer relationships with little value (just hanging around), may have no mentors, they may have weak knowledge of where success is available to them, and they may have little ability to articulate who they are and what means something to them. Most certainly they don’t have a picture in their mind of what their destination “looks like” and are relatively blindly seeking direction to something satisfying to them.
ADULTS: Are your objectives being accomplished? Are you experiencing frustration and or desire for change? Some of life’s challenges may encourage you to search for alternative solutions. Where are you turning for satisfaction and joy? Do you have healthy outlets that encourage positive behavior? As an adult do you have a clear view of your destination in life? Do you have a course of action you believe in? Do you have someone like a friend or mentor or coach encouraging you to follow it? But the plan if there is one is in disarray and the adult lacks accountability to following it. Since the plan is in-effective or there is none, the adult just fills their day with sameness hoping for a change that never comes. They feel rudderless. While they may be fun on the outside, they are desperate internally. They really want a solution to their frustration with life.