Philip J. Grimm
10/08/51 thru 4/4/18 RIP my beloved
April 4, 2018 started out like any other day for Phil and Jenny. Up early, busy, lots to do, running around like headless chickens getting ready for various appointments. Plumber was coming early because the horses broke something and caused a leak near their water trough; the farrier was due to come at 10:30 to give all the horses their pedicures; Jenny had an appointment in town at 10:30 and Phil would later have an appointment in Medford at 2:30.
In spite of the frenetic activity engulfing their morning, thankfully Phil and Jenny were both upbeat, in good moods and managed to get a hug, a kiss and an "I love you" in there. It was one of those days they were both in good moods and didn't have any of those snippy moments towards each other that can be common at times in long term marriages. It was just a good day.
Jenny left for her appointment around 9:45 while Phil stayed home and dealt with the getting the horses all locked up so the plumber could work without horse muzzles wiggling against the back of his head or horse teeth scratching on his vehicle.
Jenny got home about 1:30 or so and Phil and Jenny had a little quiet and down time to breath and talk before Phil had to leave for his appointment in Medford.
When it came time for Phil to leave, Jenny was heading out to the horse barn to feed the horses as Phil was driving down their driveway heading out. He rolled his window down and waved and yelled good bye to Jenny and she waved good bye to Phil, never for one moment thinking that would be the last time she would see him alive.
Phil went to his appointment in town and afterward, picked up some rocks needed to fill in the hole dug by the horse trough to fix the damage the horses had done. He was on Old Covered Bridge Rd when he must have experienced a physical event that he recognized was serious because he pulled the car off the road and got out.
An angel by the name of Jeremy who lived out there saw Phil and could tell something wasn't right and that Phil looked ready to collapse. Jeremy stopped his car and ran towards Phil to try and catch him but was too late and Phil fell down backwards onto the road. Jeremy flagged another driver to call 911 while Jeremy did his best to calm and help Phil.
Jeremy said Phil's eyes at that point were open, he was conscience and appeared to want to say something but was unable to. Jeremy rubbed Phil's chest, spoke softly and kindly to Phil, telling him to relax, take slow deep breaths, that help is coming and that he was not alone. Jeremy told Phil he would stay with him, that he wouldn't leave. Phil would not be alone. Jeremy was truly an angel sent to Phil at just the right moment.
Jeremy performed CPR until paramedics arrived but Jeremy actually witnessed Phil's last breath.
Paramedics worked hard trying to revive Phil but the heart attack was just too serious. Phil was gone.
One of the saddest things is that Phil was only 10 minutes from his home. Just 10 minutes and he would have been with Jenny. The hardest part for Jenny is knowing this. She would give anything to have been the one comforting Phil and holding him in his final moments.
The moral to this sad story is that you never ever know when your time or that of a loved one is going to come. Please hug your loved ones, make sure they know how much you love them and how important they are to you. Say I love you to them every single day, give them a hug, every single day. Do something kind and loving for them, no matter how small, every single day.
We can't control when we die or when a loved one dies. It's not up to us, usually, and once a loved one is gone, all chances to say what you never said are gone, too, forever. So make each day count. I can't stress that enough.
My life has turned upside down and the pain is so raw. Thank god for my daughters and the wonderful neighbors who have shown me so much love and support over this past week. Just getting out of bed in the morning is something I don't even want to do but thank god I have no choice. Animals don't take care of themselves and it gives me a reason to go on.
Please treasure your loved ones. They can be gone in the blink of an eye.
Philip J. Grimm
10/08/51 thru 4/4/18 RIP my beloved
April 4, 2018 started out like any other day for Phil and Jenny. Up early, busy, lots to do, running around like headless chickens getting ready for various appointments. Plumber was coming early because the horses broke something and caused a leak near their water trough; the farrier was due to come at 10:30 to give all the horses their pedicures; Jenny had an appointment in town at 10:30 and Phil would later have an appointment in Medford at 2:30.
In spite of the frenetic activity engulfing their morning, thankfully Phil and Jenny were both upbeat, in good moods and managed to get a hug, a kiss and an "I love you" in there. It was one of those days they were both in good moods and didn't have any of those snippy moments towards each other that can be common at times in long term marriages. It was just a good day.
Jenny left for her appointment around 9:45 while Phil stayed home and dealt with the getting the horses all locked up so the plumber could work without horse muzzles wiggling against the back of his head or horse teeth scratching on his vehicle.
Jenny got home about 1:30 or so and Phil and Jenny had a little quiet and down time to breath and talk before Phil had to leave for his appointment in Medford.
When it came time for Phil to leave, Jenny was heading out to the horse barn to feed the horses as Phil was driving down their driveway heading out. He rolled his window down and waved and yelled good bye to Jenny and she waved good bye to Phil, never for one moment thinking that would be the last time she would see him alive.
Phil went to his appointment in town and afterward, picked up some rocks needed to fill in the hole dug by the horse trough to fix the damage the horses had done. He was on Old Covered Bridge Rd when he must have experienced a physical event that he recognized was serious because he pulled the car off the road and got out.
An angel by the name of Jeremy who lived out there saw Phil and could tell something wasn't right and that Phil looked ready to collapse. Jeremy stopped his car and ran towards Phil to try and catch him but was too late and Phil fell down backwards onto the road. Jeremy flagged another driver to call 911 while Jeremy did his best to calm and help Phil.
Jeremy said Phil's eyes at that point were open, he was conscience and appeared to want to say something but was unable to. Jeremy rubbed Phil's chest, spoke softly and kindly to Phil, telling him to relax, take slow deep breaths, that help is coming and that he was not alone. Jeremy told Phil he would stay with him, that he wouldn't leave. Phil would not be alone. Jeremy was truly an angel sent to Phil at just the right moment.
Jeremy performed CPR until paramedics arrived but Jeremy actually witnessed Phil's last breath.
Paramedics worked hard trying to revive Phil but the heart attack was just too serious. Phil was gone.
One of the saddest things is that Phil was only 10 minutes from his home. Just 10 minutes and he would have been with Jenny. The hardest part for Jenny is knowing this. She would give anything to have been the one comforting Phil and holding him in his final moments.
The moral to this sad story is that you never ever know when your time or that of a loved one is going to come. Please hug your loved ones, make sure they know how much you love them and how important they are to you. Say I love you to them every single day, give them a hug, every single day. Do something kind and loving for them, no matter how small, every single day.
We can't control when we die or when a loved one dies. It's not up to us, usually, and once a loved one is gone, all chances to say what you never said are gone, too, forever. So make each day count. I can't stress that enough.
My life has turned upside down and the pain is so raw. Thank god for my daughters and the wonderful neighbors who have shown me so much love and support over this past week. Just getting out of bed in the morning is something I don't even want to do but thank god I have no choice. Animals don't take care of themselves and it gives me a reason to go on.
Please treasure your loved ones. They can be gone in the blink of an eye.