I don't want to gatecrash the funeral party
It hasn't happened yet but apart from getting married as Jojo the biggest challenge to my confidence would be going to a funeral to say farewell with very straight people who I already know don't like it at the best of times. Yes if I went as I am now as a proud transgender no doubt some would think I was being disrespectful but I like to think the person who I was saying my goodbyes to would rather I came as me now living my life and not who I was for all those years in the past. I have another problem and that is I went a bit mad with a throw-out and I only later realised I don't even have a pair of dark men's trousers any more apart from a pair in dark green and a pair of black cords, indeed not even a black tie. But going as Christopher even if people wanted me to it wouldn't make much sense as I haven't been Christopher for a long long time about ten-years and even when I was in hospital for a week I doggedly wore my wig despite the fact that it became a tangled ruin of knots. Personally I think funerals might traditionally be subdued and respectful but I don't see why everyone should look drab and unhappy. Unless I was put under intense pressure I would resist humiliating myself from going looking like a reluctant ghost from my past and be far more inclined to wear something dark simple and elegant like this classic timeless dress. Indeed I could even wear something black over my shoulders to make me look less of a hussy and indeed it might just add a note of symbolism.
I don't want to gatecrash the funeral party
It hasn't happened yet but apart from getting married as Jojo the biggest challenge to my confidence would be going to a funeral to say farewell with very straight people who I already know don't like it at the best of times. Yes if I went as I am now as a proud transgender no doubt some would think I was being disrespectful but I like to think the person who I was saying my goodbyes to would rather I came as me now living my life and not who I was for all those years in the past. I have another problem and that is I went a bit mad with a throw-out and I only later realised I don't even have a pair of dark men's trousers any more apart from a pair in dark green and a pair of black cords, indeed not even a black tie. But going as Christopher even if people wanted me to it wouldn't make much sense as I haven't been Christopher for a long long time about ten-years and even when I was in hospital for a week I doggedly wore my wig despite the fact that it became a tangled ruin of knots. Personally I think funerals might traditionally be subdued and respectful but I don't see why everyone should look drab and unhappy. Unless I was put under intense pressure I would resist humiliating myself from going looking like a reluctant ghost from my past and be far more inclined to wear something dark simple and elegant like this classic timeless dress. Indeed I could even wear something black over my shoulders to make me look less of a hussy and indeed it might just add a note of symbolism.