I'd seen the light,

it was this glaringly obvious blind realization, like pure truth!

And it wasn't about anyone in particular,

but about people in general.

I realized at that moment

there is no such thing as the one...

It's more about mind-bogling whole hell of a lot of potential ones.

Although that should be conforting,

it's actually pretty terrifying.

We'd all have to kick back

and wait for some magical force

to show us who

we should spend the rest of our lifes with.

But the truth is...

there isn't a lightning-bolt that slaps you on the ass

and tells you to pick this person over all others.

If anything, it's like the rain.

Rain falls all the time...

sometimes you're prepared for it, sometimes you're not.

Independent where you are when it hits

you either get caught in it, or you don't.

In fact, most of us usually try like hell to avoid it.

You might miss the bus, you might catch the bus.

Maybe you remembered your umbrella, maybe you didn't.

No big science.

Just random torrential bursts of opportunity.

And that's the most fate can do.

The rest is up to us.

By Walt Becker & Peter W. Nelson, in "Buying the Cow"