Update present day: Nov 2025

 

I have finally signed in on my old MacBook - you can't see mail or change your bio on a phone or tablet. Please be patient if you have messaged me.

 

Back on Flickr, the original place I started posting in around 2006 - I have disabled all social media now, it's incredibly depressing and bad for everyones self worth.

 

41 years old Trans Female firecracker here. There is no ambiguity, I'm not non binary - this is me, there's no 'dressing up' anymore. I finally decided to transition in late 2022 and not regretted it once, however, just because I have fun and smile a lot, life is not perfect.

 

The journey started way back when I was around 8/9 years old, as quite a mischievous child I somehow one day felt drawn to putting a frock on of my cousins, instant calm washed over me, something made sense.

 

One of the biggest points in my life was going out for the first time ever in Leeds. I dressed up when I got there, it was at the Woodhouse Community Centre in Leeds, a crossdressing meet. They kindly invited me out to Leeds Gay quarter after.

What an incredible experience. I was either 18 or 19.

 

Back to present day I have certainly come a long way.

 

My look in general is very much 'girl next door' I try and fail to look sexy at times but I'm too innocent looking, some people just have it (I can think of a bird on here who oozes sexual prowess, alas I just don't have it!)

 

I have no real fetishes and won't get involved with all that, I'm not a sissy and I don't want dominating - just wanted to get that out there.

 

I'm into Men (near enough exclusively these days) I'd have a snog with Women but Men are my thing. Since re-finding my libido after a few years on HRT through the power of progesterone. I've never had a BF sadly, it's difficult dating as a trans female, but I've had my fair share of fun.

 

If you happen to be a local Man and you think we may clique, feel free to message as long as it's measured and polite, but I do like a manly man that is the perfect mix of fair but brooding! I like a man to take the lead as I am a strong willed Gal!

 

Life can be a bit challenging at times but never dull, as I'm nearly certain I have yet undiagnosed ADHD. As I say, this can be a blessing and a curse. Still awaiting an assessment. Being diagnosed finally would mean the world to me, so much would make sense.

 

It's made me life challenging and arguably got worse the older I get, I'm extremely impulsive, find it hard to concentrate, Zone out, fidget, live in a constant state of bedlam.

 

It does however make me creative, vibrant and true to every last bone in my body. I value my integrity and cannot abide by fakery or bullshit, this is why I struggle in a corporate world, I see through the nonsense.

 

My life as a transgender Woman is fueled by ADHD I feel - as we who are neurodivergent think beyond the status quo and question everything, authenticity is vital. It's astonishing how many Transgender and LGBT people are neurodivergent.

 

I'm recently unemployed and looking to start a course to do what makes me happy, working with people and making a difference. I will update when I have more information. My mood has improved ten-fold since leaving my previous employment.

 

In a lot of a ways I buck the trend of being trans, I am massively self deprecating and don't mind having the Mickey taken out of me if I know you, I'll make little quips about myself a lot.

 

I don't see my birth name as a deadname, some of those years were fun at times, and without that boy they wouldn't be me now. I'll never be a genetic Woman, and in many ways when you start out transition it can be difficult to call yourself a Woman. at all. You're waiting for the lightbulb moment. Believe me it never comes, my number one advice is be yourself, any time you try to fake femininity, that's exactly the way it will come across.

 

I'm an extremely proud trans Woman, that's more than good enough for me.

 

I'm highly respectful towards Women, and in all honesty I respect their opinion towards me, even if it's negative, I'll never shout them down as I feel it's their right to question. On the other hand, if a Male has a negative opinion, that's bullshit, I'll call it, as they haven't a clue about any of it unless they have been through it.

 

Thankfully it's very, very rare I have any trouble or negativity and I feel for those who do.

 

Interests:

 

I'm an Avid Mountain Biker - you may see photos of me out and about on my affectionately named E-Bike Flo. I recently had a bit of a crash so recovering, looking forward to getting back on the horse!

 

I love House Music and John Digweed is my favourite DJ. I love dancing, not just to House Music but Funk, Soul, Disco - anything with a groove.

 

Adore walking and a lot of time I'll mix this with History as I am obsessed with old railways and more recently trains.

Without question I do love steam trains, but the Class 37 is quickly becoming my favourite loco. The raw sheer power.

 

You will see quite a few photos of my coming up at Heritage Railways.

 

It's funny as my interest in Railway History has been building for around 5 years now and I sometimes join my friend who has a Youtube Channel on history walks. We love to find remnants from the Past, a chain marker, sleepers, track chairs and obviously any infrastructure left.

 

His channel is: www.youtube.com/@exploringthepastandthepres9793

  

One last thing:

 

Stand up for your rights, those rights could be snatched away.. I'll fight for you by just being present as and where I want.

 

Jess xxx

  

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