Life is but the entire vehicle and you are the driver. You maneuver to your desired direction. You plan what type of journey you want to have. But along the way you meet a lot of things, a lot of people, encounter different experiences and they affect the kind of journey you want to have and influence the direction you want to head on. You cannot help it, you cannot resist them, they are part of your journey. You are the driver and being influenced by different obstacles you went through are still part of it. And, as long as you decide for the path you want to take and you stand for it no matter what, you will never be wrong.