Find me on FetLife: RandiRussellTG

Mature TV/CD/GQ. Pacific Northwest native.

Seriously seeking a mature (50+) masculine partner/husband. I'd love nothing more than to settle into a comfortable "housewife" role. For those interested in a more unconventional D/s type relationship, please read on:

Because I am a bottom I have always tended to think of myself as being submissive. More recently I am coming to believe my orientation is actually more dominant. Dominant bottoms aren't typical, but there are a few of us around...there is even a dom bottoms/sub tops group at FetLife (I am a member). I am tall, fit, intelligent, and generally a cheerful, easygoing person. I am neither sadistic nor masochistic...I'm much more interested in the psychological aspects of D/s relationships. I seek a mature (50+) masculine partner for a long-term, intimate, domestic relationship. My personality type is INFP. Being an introvert I don't have much interest in club going, crowded scenes, or conspicuous alcohol consumption. I am non-op, not on HRT, and don't consider myself to be publicly passable (height and voice are issues). Sorry, but I'm not interested in "play dates" with other TGs. I have been away from the scene for about five years, but am very anxious to resume activities and explore my changing orientation.

Longtime member of URNA, CollarMe/CollarSpace. Former member at Alt.com, AdultFriendFinder, etc. You might have seen me at my friend Babette's "Bound To Tease" (TVs in bondage) website.

Yes, I do have a few real-time friends in the TG world, but am still relatively closeted. Yes, I have actually dated a number of men over the years, and I have a few naughty photos I could share to prove it. I just hesitate to post them because doing so often seems to generate a lot of unwanted mail. Happy to share my more explicit pics with men who interest me as potential partners. Singles only, please...I prefer not to get involved with persons who are married or otherwise attached.

"There are few more convincing demonstrations of the reality of the anima [archetype] in a man than (the) types of masculine homosexuality in which the presence of the feminine power is so conspicuous. In mannerisms, dress, the language system that arises in the subculture such men create for themselves, even in assumed feminine names, these men show forth the reality of the anima, to an otherwise unbelieving world. It may be that a certain number of males in each generation are chosen in some way by the unconscious to live life in such a hermaphroditic way, that they are fated, as (Carl) Jung once said, to refuse to identify with "the role of a one-sided sexual being," as though to remind us that no one is exclusively male or female, but that each of us has an androgynous nature."

-John A. Sanford, THE INVISIBLE PARTNERS

"To me gender is not physical at all, but is altogether insubstantial. It is soul, perhaps, it is talent, it is taste, it is environment, it is how one feels, it is light and shade, it is inner music, it is a spring in one's step or an exchange of glances, it is more truly life and love than any combination of genitals, ovaries, and hormones. It is the essentialness of oneself, the psyche, the fragment of unity. Male and female are sex, masculine and feminine are gender, and though the conceptions obviously overlap, they are far from synonymous. As C.S. Lewis once wrote, gender is not a mere imaginative extension of sex. "Gender is a reality, and a more fundamental reality than sex. Sex is, in fact, merely the adaptation to organic life of a fundamental polarity which divides all created beings. Female sex is simply one of the things that have feminine gender; there are many others, and masculine and feminine meet us on planes of reality where male and female would be simply meaningless."

-Jan Morris, CONUNDRUM