Ms Jan Wilson
She and he. Yin and yang.
This is the first photo of us he has allowed me to post in a very long time. Perhaps he is mellowing.
Insights - Janny and being Transgender.
I adore digital photography. It is God's way of making amends for what he did to us.
I love making new friends. Please feel free to send me a message. If you do wish to become my friend please post a comment on my photostream before adding me, I feel this makes us better friends and our friendship not too superficial.
I especially enjoy reading informative profiles.
I am in a most fortunate position in that I have a wonderfully accepting family. I am blessed and I do not take this lightly or for granted. I know of many in my situation who have lost family and this makes me truly sad. I cannot explain exactly why this happens any more than I can explain transgenderism but I think, from observation, that family rejects when embarrassment takes over.
I am not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don't think it is shameful to be a woman.
I first experienced feminine feelings at three years of age. It is my earliest memory.
As for labels I really don't care. Call me a transvestite, t girl, crossdresser, transgender, tranny or whatever. The only thing I do not like to see is girls written as 'gurls'. Where did 'gurl' come from? When enfemme we are girls or perhaps more accurately women. That is how I feel and that is what I am. I am a don't call me a gurl girl. As a matter of fact I have avoided any group with 'gurl' in the title and choose not to respond to any 'gurl' reference.
I have absolutely no reasonable explanation why I have the driving need to express myself as a woman. I have read volumes on the subject over many years and I have reached the conclusion that no one truly knows. I do believe that there are people who are born in the wrong physical gender to their psychological gender. These people often display their true gender to the world at an early age, refuse to conform to their birth gender and do not in any way attempt to hide the fact.
Those like myself who have functioned successfully in our birth gender and have hidden our cross gender feelings are I think a different case altogether.
Could it be so simple as we enjoy presenting as the opposite gender to the extent that some of us choose to live our lives as the opposite sex full time. Simply put, given the choice and the opportunity, we prefer to be women.
Some trans people have described their transgenderism as a gift. I don't know if I would go as far as to say that but it is definitely an interesting aspect to life. There are times when I absolutely embrace Jan. I cannot imagine not having her in my life. Being trans and therefore a member of a minority gives an insight to the trials other minorities face.
Perception
Being perceived and treated as a woman is a totally different than being seen and dealt with as a man and I feel fortunate to experience something that half the population will never ever know.
A lot of genetic women choose to down play their expression of femininity. Such as wearing trousers, little or no makeup or jewelery for example. We rarely go down this path. The obvious problem with this is the proclivity to overdress. One should not wear a party dress, pearls and green eyeshadow to the mall. Also middle aged genetic women rarely (read never) wear mini skirts.
I feel that appropriate behaviour and presentation is very important if we want to be accepted and in some way respected.
The older I become the more I wonder why someone like myself choosing to present as female is such a big deal to some. I believe things are improving and that's nice.
Why the need for photos?
I realise that this is a perfectly valid question. After all I don't see too many genetic women posting pictures of themselves in their various outfits and social situations.
I enjoy being able to look back at the wonderful times I have had socialising and I also use my photos to record my changing looks and presentation. This does not need to be in a public forum yet many of us choose to use internet communities for this purpose.
I do know that it is much more satisfying to dress and go out than to dress in private. Perhaps posting publicly
is an extension of that.
Gender dysphoria - Wikipedia
'Gender dysphoria (GD), or gender identity disorder (GID), is the distress a person experiences as a result of the sex and gender they were assigned at birth. In this case, the assigned sex and gender do not match the person's gender identity, and the person is transgender.'
I have met very few people who have expressed a love of their birth gender. It is rare to hear someone cisgender say they love being a man or a woman. The few occasions have been women when trying to understand my desire to be female expressing their understanding by stating their own love of being female. As for men the only time I have heard them say they are glad they were not born female is related to periods and childbirth.
Gender dysphoria can be quite debilitating. Its intensity rises and falls at different times. When strong it can be all consuming to the extent that it is difficult to focus on much else. Thankfully these periods are fleeting but never the less require vigilance to control. I imagine only someone who has experienced GD could relate to this.
Things I Like
People making an effort to present nicely.
Excellent personal hygiene.
Interesting profile stories.
Pretty dresses.
Pretty shoes.
Caring people.
Understated makeup.
Shopping.
Smooth skin.
Drop earrings.
Good conversationalists who are also good listeners.
Things I Don't Like.
Smoking, smokers, cigarettes but not fags.
Self absorbed people.
Tasteless photos of male genitalia.
Tasteless photos of hairy male bodies in ladies underwear.
Tasteless photos of lewd acts.
Tasteless photos.
Tattoos. (On anyone)
Foul language.
The word 'gurl' in any context.
Poor hygiene.
Micro minis on anyone over the age of sixteen.
Ugly shorts.
Clownish makeup.
Homophobes.
Hypocrites.
Fibbers.
Thieves.
Narcissists.
Illicit drugs in any form.
Poker machines.
People who cannot be bothered to spell correctly - God knows the internet provides the answers.
T Girls giving themselves super weird names.
Jan.
She and he. Yin and yang.
This is the first photo of us he has allowed me to post in a very long time. Perhaps he is mellowing.
Insights - Janny and being Transgender.
I adore digital photography. It is God's way of making amends for what he did to us.
I love making new friends. Please feel free to send me a message. If you do wish to become my friend please post a comment on my photostream before adding me, I feel this makes us better friends and our friendship not too superficial.
I especially enjoy reading informative profiles.
I am in a most fortunate position in that I have a wonderfully accepting family. I am blessed and I do not take this lightly or for granted. I know of many in my situation who have lost family and this makes me truly sad. I cannot explain exactly why this happens any more than I can explain transgenderism but I think, from observation, that family rejects when embarrassment takes over.
I am not ashamed to dress like a woman because I don't think it is shameful to be a woman.
I first experienced feminine feelings at three years of age. It is my earliest memory.
As for labels I really don't care. Call me a transvestite, t girl, crossdresser, transgender, tranny or whatever. The only thing I do not like to see is girls written as 'gurls'. Where did 'gurl' come from? When enfemme we are girls or perhaps more accurately women. That is how I feel and that is what I am. I am a don't call me a gurl girl. As a matter of fact I have avoided any group with 'gurl' in the title and choose not to respond to any 'gurl' reference.
I have absolutely no reasonable explanation why I have the driving need to express myself as a woman. I have read volumes on the subject over many years and I have reached the conclusion that no one truly knows. I do believe that there are people who are born in the wrong physical gender to their psychological gender. These people often display their true gender to the world at an early age, refuse to conform to their birth gender and do not in any way attempt to hide the fact.
Those like myself who have functioned successfully in our birth gender and have hidden our cross gender feelings are I think a different case altogether.
Could it be so simple as we enjoy presenting as the opposite gender to the extent that some of us choose to live our lives as the opposite sex full time. Simply put, given the choice and the opportunity, we prefer to be women.
Some trans people have described their transgenderism as a gift. I don't know if I would go as far as to say that but it is definitely an interesting aspect to life. There are times when I absolutely embrace Jan. I cannot imagine not having her in my life. Being trans and therefore a member of a minority gives an insight to the trials other minorities face.
Perception
Being perceived and treated as a woman is a totally different than being seen and dealt with as a man and I feel fortunate to experience something that half the population will never ever know.
A lot of genetic women choose to down play their expression of femininity. Such as wearing trousers, little or no makeup or jewelery for example. We rarely go down this path. The obvious problem with this is the proclivity to overdress. One should not wear a party dress, pearls and green eyeshadow to the mall. Also middle aged genetic women rarely (read never) wear mini skirts.
I feel that appropriate behaviour and presentation is very important if we want to be accepted and in some way respected.
The older I become the more I wonder why someone like myself choosing to present as female is such a big deal to some. I believe things are improving and that's nice.
Why the need for photos?
I realise that this is a perfectly valid question. After all I don't see too many genetic women posting pictures of themselves in their various outfits and social situations.
I enjoy being able to look back at the wonderful times I have had socialising and I also use my photos to record my changing looks and presentation. This does not need to be in a public forum yet many of us choose to use internet communities for this purpose.
I do know that it is much more satisfying to dress and go out than to dress in private. Perhaps posting publicly
is an extension of that.
Gender dysphoria - Wikipedia
'Gender dysphoria (GD), or gender identity disorder (GID), is the distress a person experiences as a result of the sex and gender they were assigned at birth. In this case, the assigned sex and gender do not match the person's gender identity, and the person is transgender.'
I have met very few people who have expressed a love of their birth gender. It is rare to hear someone cisgender say they love being a man or a woman. The few occasions have been women when trying to understand my desire to be female expressing their understanding by stating their own love of being female. As for men the only time I have heard them say they are glad they were not born female is related to periods and childbirth.
Gender dysphoria can be quite debilitating. Its intensity rises and falls at different times. When strong it can be all consuming to the extent that it is difficult to focus on much else. Thankfully these periods are fleeting but never the less require vigilance to control. I imagine only someone who has experienced GD could relate to this.
Things I Like
People making an effort to present nicely.
Excellent personal hygiene.
Interesting profile stories.
Pretty dresses.
Pretty shoes.
Caring people.
Understated makeup.
Shopping.
Smooth skin.
Drop earrings.
Good conversationalists who are also good listeners.
Things I Don't Like.
Smoking, smokers, cigarettes but not fags.
Self absorbed people.
Tasteless photos of male genitalia.
Tasteless photos of hairy male bodies in ladies underwear.
Tasteless photos of lewd acts.
Tasteless photos.
Tattoos. (On anyone)
Foul language.
The word 'gurl' in any context.
Poor hygiene.
Micro minis on anyone over the age of sixteen.
Ugly shorts.
Clownish makeup.
Homophobes.
Hypocrites.
Fibbers.
Thieves.
Narcissists.
Illicit drugs in any form.
Poker machines.
People who cannot be bothered to spell correctly - God knows the internet provides the answers.
T Girls giving themselves super weird names.
Jan.