Eva Maria Mann
Gossip - backbiting - slander. There's no smoke without a fire? (Waar rook is - is vuur?).
black ink 2010
We need: a clear mind, searching for truth and juridical discipline. Rationality. Like bright sunlight! .
My experience: gossip etc. can seem useful information. A warning. We can think we need these warnings. But always we have to think: is this true?
For gossip can become backbiting, slander, even intentional false information meant to manipulate authorities. With the aim: to harm a person. Really a form of violence. Dangerous. Meant to destroy the life of a human being. When it grows this way and people - also people who have got authority and power and have the duty to search for truth - hearing the slander - can - alas - react stupid and irresponsible - it can even become necessary to ask help of a lawyer. This also will cause a lot of stress, take away so much time and money, all this damage for the victim - that has to defend himself against slander..fake accusations.
Defense with the assistence of a trustful and honest lawyer ..it is the only solution. For an innocent person accused by the authorities of criminal behavior based on nothing but false accusations can try..in countries where is some respect for the laws. Although the harm done can often not be repaired. As is also the case with fysical violence. Slandering people are of course sometimes afraid of good research. Then they have to proof their lies. But often they are not at all punished. Sometimes they are anonymous. Or they can say: we only thought this was true. So slander etc. can be an easy way to harm a person. To bully people. It belongs to the practices of bullies. (see Wikipedia: bullying). In my country institutions that are informed about you with slander etc. write this down in their files and it can happen they do not tell you about the information they wrote down as "a suspicion of" - or forget (!) to mention it is only a "suspicion" .
They also can do not any research - no time for this, they say - but they can easily think there is some truth in those lies. And act according to this. They have time for that (!).
Not for good research.
But...they are simply used this way by people who want to use them as a harmful weapon. It is so easy for people to tell slander to for instance your employer, landlord, housing association, even the police, to large bureacratic institutions. For instance: some housrenting institutions have a special telephone number for warnings and complaints about neighbors. And make so called "official files" of slander like: this person is mentally disturbed, uses drugs, is an alcoholic, has illegal inhabitants, did beat me, tried to strangle or rape me etc. They write this down as a truth..do no research..hardly inform the slandered person. This is so amateuristic and unwise. Some of the people working there..stalkers can so easily use them..they are so ignorant.
Also the police has an alarm number. People can also easily use this for slander. The alarm teams of the police write this so called information in their " official files" and can spread it as "true". For instance send this info as a truth to your renter. Without research. Then the renter can think: we wrote also this bad info in our files and if the police says this is true or part of it can be true - it must be true. And other authorities can think: it is true. The police says so. For the police in my country is always trusted to tell the truth.
So the result of this slander can be real harm.
You can be ordered to leave in two months your renthouse, never be able to rent another house of course. You can become homeless.
You can be ordered to pay an enormous amount of money because they say...you commited a fraude with your pension. You loose your money and will have debts.
They can also try to put you in jail.
Or you can loose your job. Etc.
Everyone around you can think you must be some criminal.
When the slanderers are without any proof or research believed by the police.
Some authorities love to get this kind of information: slander.. They accept it as a warning. This person is suspect! There is no proof but..there must be something..a reason. There is always a danger they believe the slander without research or proof and spread the slander as truth. If the police says it is true it will be believed. So then a real problem is created by the police. For you. It can ruin your life. You are innocent and there is no proof that you did anything wrong. But then you have to proof the police was wrong. That is not easy. Can mean: years of your life, a damage for your health, a trauma etc. Destruction of your life.
And of course simple gossip etc. can cause harm when simply spread in the surroundings of a person. For it can be seen as a friendly and serious warning. As some truth.
Better not to be friends with people who tell gossip - without thoughts about the harm this can cause or with the intention to harm others..
And how does it feel -?- to be a person who goes to the police and tell deliberate lies about innocent persons in the neighborhood - you hardly know - lies like.... this person did beat me or tried to rape me? And also tell this the whole neighborhood? How does it feel? I cannot imagine. This hate and violence. This wish to harm innocent people.
When a person does this often of course finally there can be hope the police and other people do really not believe the lies anymore. Especially when there is never any proof.
It is so harmful when an innocent person is accused and has to defend himself. Who gives innocent persons back the time and happiness and thrust, evt. the health they lost.
In politics gossip or worse etc. is often consciously used as a real weapon. See the newspapers.
The opposite of telling bad things, seems to be to tell good and true things. About persons. The faces, the eyes, of people who tell pleasant things about others or tell the truth are these not usually different from the faces of people who tell deliberately lies or bad rumors and seem to enjoy this? In this drawing I tried to show something of the cheap meanness of gossip and the kind of "pleasure" in telling deliberately bad things about persons. And the stupidity of people who believe without proof rumors. And spread them.
Sorry for my simple English. Good article about slander etc. as part of bullying: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying.
I made this drawing directly with ink, no sketch with carbon first. So it is a spontaneaous drawing without corrections.
I added here later a Dutch poem by the writer "Chatfant", 10-02-2015, on the site Lettertempel www.lettertempel.nl/gedicht.asp?storyid=32995
Men zegt dat...
Getekend
door een publieke leugen
moordt de laster verder.
Moordt al jaren
in veel hoofden
onuitroeibaar
ongestoord
alle liefde uit.
Wie rukt de laster
de tong uit?
Wie brengt de leugenaar
op de knieën?
Wie buigt recht
wat reeds in tijd
is kromgegroeid?
Wie geeft aan onschuld
alle verloren,
bedorven jaren terug?
Wie geeft eerbied
aan wat ten onrechte
veracht?
Dit gaat niet over macht,
en ook niet over geld,
maar wie reinigt
alle hoofden van die
leugen, die de waarheid
werd gedacht?
En wie oordeelt
ooit de dader,
die die leugens heeft bedacht
en ze heimlijk lachend
ook in omloop
heeft gebracht?
Gossip - backbiting - slander. There's no smoke without a fire? (Waar rook is - is vuur?).
black ink 2010
We need: a clear mind, searching for truth and juridical discipline. Rationality. Like bright sunlight! .
My experience: gossip etc. can seem useful information. A warning. We can think we need these warnings. But always we have to think: is this true?
For gossip can become backbiting, slander, even intentional false information meant to manipulate authorities. With the aim: to harm a person. Really a form of violence. Dangerous. Meant to destroy the life of a human being. When it grows this way and people - also people who have got authority and power and have the duty to search for truth - hearing the slander - can - alas - react stupid and irresponsible - it can even become necessary to ask help of a lawyer. This also will cause a lot of stress, take away so much time and money, all this damage for the victim - that has to defend himself against slander..fake accusations.
Defense with the assistence of a trustful and honest lawyer ..it is the only solution. For an innocent person accused by the authorities of criminal behavior based on nothing but false accusations can try..in countries where is some respect for the laws. Although the harm done can often not be repaired. As is also the case with fysical violence. Slandering people are of course sometimes afraid of good research. Then they have to proof their lies. But often they are not at all punished. Sometimes they are anonymous. Or they can say: we only thought this was true. So slander etc. can be an easy way to harm a person. To bully people. It belongs to the practices of bullies. (see Wikipedia: bullying). In my country institutions that are informed about you with slander etc. write this down in their files and it can happen they do not tell you about the information they wrote down as "a suspicion of" - or forget (!) to mention it is only a "suspicion" .
They also can do not any research - no time for this, they say - but they can easily think there is some truth in those lies. And act according to this. They have time for that (!).
Not for good research.
But...they are simply used this way by people who want to use them as a harmful weapon. It is so easy for people to tell slander to for instance your employer, landlord, housing association, even the police, to large bureacratic institutions. For instance: some housrenting institutions have a special telephone number for warnings and complaints about neighbors. And make so called "official files" of slander like: this person is mentally disturbed, uses drugs, is an alcoholic, has illegal inhabitants, did beat me, tried to strangle or rape me etc. They write this down as a truth..do no research..hardly inform the slandered person. This is so amateuristic and unwise. Some of the people working there..stalkers can so easily use them..they are so ignorant.
Also the police has an alarm number. People can also easily use this for slander. The alarm teams of the police write this so called information in their " official files" and can spread it as "true". For instance send this info as a truth to your renter. Without research. Then the renter can think: we wrote also this bad info in our files and if the police says this is true or part of it can be true - it must be true. And other authorities can think: it is true. The police says so. For the police in my country is always trusted to tell the truth.
So the result of this slander can be real harm.
You can be ordered to leave in two months your renthouse, never be able to rent another house of course. You can become homeless.
You can be ordered to pay an enormous amount of money because they say...you commited a fraude with your pension. You loose your money and will have debts.
They can also try to put you in jail.
Or you can loose your job. Etc.
Everyone around you can think you must be some criminal.
When the slanderers are without any proof or research believed by the police.
Some authorities love to get this kind of information: slander.. They accept it as a warning. This person is suspect! There is no proof but..there must be something..a reason. There is always a danger they believe the slander without research or proof and spread the slander as truth. If the police says it is true it will be believed. So then a real problem is created by the police. For you. It can ruin your life. You are innocent and there is no proof that you did anything wrong. But then you have to proof the police was wrong. That is not easy. Can mean: years of your life, a damage for your health, a trauma etc. Destruction of your life.
And of course simple gossip etc. can cause harm when simply spread in the surroundings of a person. For it can be seen as a friendly and serious warning. As some truth.
Better not to be friends with people who tell gossip - without thoughts about the harm this can cause or with the intention to harm others..
And how does it feel -?- to be a person who goes to the police and tell deliberate lies about innocent persons in the neighborhood - you hardly know - lies like.... this person did beat me or tried to rape me? And also tell this the whole neighborhood? How does it feel? I cannot imagine. This hate and violence. This wish to harm innocent people.
When a person does this often of course finally there can be hope the police and other people do really not believe the lies anymore. Especially when there is never any proof.
It is so harmful when an innocent person is accused and has to defend himself. Who gives innocent persons back the time and happiness and thrust, evt. the health they lost.
In politics gossip or worse etc. is often consciously used as a real weapon. See the newspapers.
The opposite of telling bad things, seems to be to tell good and true things. About persons. The faces, the eyes, of people who tell pleasant things about others or tell the truth are these not usually different from the faces of people who tell deliberately lies or bad rumors and seem to enjoy this? In this drawing I tried to show something of the cheap meanness of gossip and the kind of "pleasure" in telling deliberately bad things about persons. And the stupidity of people who believe without proof rumors. And spread them.
Sorry for my simple English. Good article about slander etc. as part of bullying: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying.
I made this drawing directly with ink, no sketch with carbon first. So it is a spontaneaous drawing without corrections.
I added here later a Dutch poem by the writer "Chatfant", 10-02-2015, on the site Lettertempel www.lettertempel.nl/gedicht.asp?storyid=32995
Men zegt dat...
Getekend
door een publieke leugen
moordt de laster verder.
Moordt al jaren
in veel hoofden
onuitroeibaar
ongestoord
alle liefde uit.
Wie rukt de laster
de tong uit?
Wie brengt de leugenaar
op de knieën?
Wie buigt recht
wat reeds in tijd
is kromgegroeid?
Wie geeft aan onschuld
alle verloren,
bedorven jaren terug?
Wie geeft eerbied
aan wat ten onrechte
veracht?
Dit gaat niet over macht,
en ook niet over geld,
maar wie reinigt
alle hoofden van die
leugen, die de waarheid
werd gedacht?
En wie oordeelt
ooit de dader,
die die leugens heeft bedacht
en ze heimlijk lachend
ook in omloop
heeft gebracht?